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Q: 6 weeks pregnant and extreme sadness

asked by: Jamms on July 3rd, 2007

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I am 26 years old and recently found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant. I am absolutely devasted to put it mildly. I have been feeling extremely saddened and can't hlp but wish that I never ever got into this situation.

I have a lovely relationship with my BF. We have been together for 6 years. He is somewhat excited about my pregnancy but I am the exact opposite. However I do not feel that we are ready mentally or financially for a baby. I am really upset at myself for this. I can't help but think of how horrible it would b to bring a baby into this worl which I was not able ot care for the way that I wanted. On top of this, I feel extremely guilty for not wanting and loving the little person inside o me the way I should.

I always thought that I would be married first and could prepare for a family addition but things have not worked out that way. For this, I also fel so very ashamed as many people in my community will look down on me. I am terribly frightened of the things people will say and the judgments that will be passed. Some may say just get over it but unfortunately for me that is MUCH easier said than done. I have support from family and friends but I have not found pace within myself and it has been extremely difficult. I spnd the majority of my nights crying and wishing I was not in this situation. I have tried talking to some people about it but it is very difficult.

Can somone please shed some advice or offer some guidence. I am torn between the decisions I need to make at this time.

Replies(7)

lolanonna

replied on October 29th, 2007

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Re: 6 Weeks Pregnant And Extreme Sadness

I am not pleased to hear you this upset, but I am relieved myself to have read your comment, I too am 6 weeks and MISERABLE. A newlywed with a honeymoon baby and marital problems. I feel no connection to the life inside me and it kills me... honey it isnt uncommon to feel this I have read it is called antepardum (like post pardum) depression which can be treated with meds. I pray that you begin to feel better, just know you aren't a bad person and you are NOT alone..... all my best
A

Jamms wrote:

Amethyst_Butterfly

replied on April 5th, 2008

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omg, I can relate sort of I just reached 7 weeks, and am miserable, i can't remember a time in my life when I felt this depressed and cried this much. I'm not even married to the daddy, we've been together just over a month. And I cant tell whether or not he's excited, I know i'm not.

Mabel

replied on April 5th, 2008

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Amethyst_Butterfly wrote:

You need to speak with your doctor about this. Depression during pregnancy is very common and often goes untreated because women think they should be over the moon and very excited to be pregnant - saying they aren't can make them feel guilty. Don't feel guilty. Do talk to your doctor.

Having a baby is a MAJOR MAJOR MAJOR life change and should not be taken lightly. You have a lot going on with a new relationship and a surprise pregnancy. Please discuss your feelings with your boyfriend and your doctor.

Genibabi

replied on April 30th, 2008

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ok im 6 weeks pregnant too but im 16
im sad most of my time becasue i have no phone my bf juat got a job and its hard to see eachother i mean he wants me to rest cuz we dont want anything wrong to happen to the baby but i still need that "us time" every once n a while i miss him terribly and its getting harder each day i dont kno what to do at times except cry because i feel alone......its hard

mommyglamour

replied on May 5th, 2008

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I too was severely depressed w/ my first pregnancy in my first trimester....and i even wanted this when it happened....i was puking all the time and when i wasn't i felt that strong pressure too....if my hubby just barely didn't pay attention to me when i wanted him too or payed too much attention when i just wanted to breathe it made me feel like i didn't even wanna be with him anymore and resulted in me breaking up with him twice in my first trimester of the first pregnancy. I wish i never would have done that but my feelings were constantly overwhelming me and i was feeling like i was living with the flu for 3 months straight plus having the actual flu the following month. hopefully when you pull well into your 2nd trimester or feels those first kicks you'll start to feel alot better.....and it will all be worth it the day you have that baby. Amorous feelings like you never could imagine will surround you and for a short while you'll feel like everything is going to be so wonderful...and then you go into normal mode eventually again....don't worry you can't be in the boat i was in when i chose to allow myself the chance of getting pregnant. I ended up back living w/ my mom and no car all the worse things, but here we still pull through and have good experiences too. everyday i wish i could relive the birth of my 2 children..they were the two best experiences of my life!

Pregnantindallas

replied on October 1st, 2009

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11 weeks and sad

All your comments helped me very much, I am one day shy of being 12weeks and I feel so bad for thinking at times I should not have this baby, then I feel guilty for saying it, like I am a horrible mother. I thought too I would have everything in order before a baby, especially since I had been told for years I could never have one, then when I found out I was pregnant with someone short of a miracle, I thought I would be happy, I spend may times fighting with my boyfriend and crying myself to sleep. I feel so sad and alone. Then guilty for feeling the way I do. Since my boyfriend shows interest only sometimes, says he is happy then sounds so depressed I think to myself what person would I be if I bring this child here and no one loves him. I have no one to talk to because I dont want them to know I feel these things so I just stay to myself and pray. Alone Pregnant in Dallas

y000ip1

replied on November 13th, 2009

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your comments have helped me so much. I'm in a good situation with my husband, but feeling extremely tired overwhelmed and depressed. if this does not go away in the second trimesyer I will look for help. hang in there. i heard it gets better.

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