trouble ejaculating during intercourse Posted: 07-03-07 12:54pm
Ok so, my (wonderful) girlfriend just
moved in with me from out of state. I
couldn’t be happier except for the fact
that, since we started seeing each
other(even before she moved in), I’ve
been experiencing certain technically
difficulties more frequently. Keep in
mind, I’m only 23.
First off, and probably the most
problematic for both of us, is a mild but
still troublesome case of ED. It is
becoming more frequent and tends to happen
after about 10 – 30 minutes of
penetrative sex. I have yet to become
fully flaccid. Without becoming too
graphic, I’d have to say it stops at
about “Half Mast,” but it is enough to
makes vaginal penetration difficult.
I’ve been doing some research and am
considering ordering one of those “male
enhancement” drugs out there for three
reasons. They promise Stronger and more
reliable erections, more control over
orgasm(I’ll get to this shortly), and
increased size (which in my mind is just a
bonus b/c, lets face it, there are few men
out there that don’t want to be a bit
“bigger”). Of course I’m plagued
with the natural questions: Is it a scam?
Will it work? Which one is right for me?
Will taking something like this now make
it harder on my sex life when I’m older?
I’m going to go out on a limb here and
say that experts or advisers will not
“endorse” any of these products on
this site by mentioning them by name, but
if you have any TRUE success stories feel
free to send me a private message.
Ok my last few problems are of a more
intimate nature. Mainly it all stems from
one thing. I have trouble ejaculating
during intercourse and I have yet to do so
during oral or hand jobs. I can do it
easily during masturbation though. It
just seems to take a lot more effort than
it should for me to reach climax with
someone else. Honestly while a bit
annoying this doesn’t bother ME that
much. I enjoy pleasuring her more than
myself and by the time I run out of energy
and collapse in frustration, she is
thoroughly satisfied physically. However
you see she is not that experienced
sexually and when I don’t reach
completion she feels like she is not
pleasing me well enough, like she let me
down or something. Which of course is not
the case. I get my satisfaction through
pleasing her. If my goal was simply to
make myself ejaculate then she wouldn’t
even need to be there. So I guess what I
am saying is, I want her to be able to
make me climax or be able to make myself
climax with her assistance with more ease.
Particularly during oral b/c she has
expressed an interest in wanting to make
me climax using only her mouth. Any
suggestions?
Lastly, when I do finally climax, it is
usually very powerful. To the point that
I’d say the muscle spasms are almost
violent and painful(in a good way). It
that normal?
I know this is a novel but if you have had
the patients to reach the end I thank you
and any advice will be taken in with
gratitude.
Oh yea, two things I wanted to mention
are: I AM circumcised and have always
wondered if a circumcised penis is more or
less sensitive than an uncircumcised one.
Also my blood pressure tends to stay at
levels just below PRE-hypertension. My
doc tells me to keep an eye on it but as
is, it is no threat to my health. However
I’ve heard high blood pressure can
affect a man’s erection.
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matthew king
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trouble ejaculating Posted: 09-07-08 15:33pm
These are all symptoms of Traumatic
Masturbatory Syndrome which seems to
afflict men who masturbate lying on their
stomach (prone) and rubbing the penis
against something, usually a pillow or
mattress, rather than using the hand.
Visit healthystrokes.com and see the
abstinence program. Your symptoms are
exactly what I had too.
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alaskawilliams
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Posted: 09-07-08 20:07pm
At your age it
could be a number of things from every day
stress to riding a bike to much. (yes a
bike seat is said to sometimes cause these
issues)
There are a number of so called fixes to
ED. The fact is about 95% are a scam. From
pills, devices to wear and special
techniques. Really do some research before
buy. You should consult a doctor before
buying any drugs from a web site. You
could end up with bigger breasts instead
of a bigger or stronger man hood.
You mentioned that this at times happens
with 10-30 min of penetrative sex, try
just 5-10 min and then change positions.
Even if you don't need it a little
lubricant can make all the differents.
Hope it helps, good luck.
Chow -
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Posted: 09-09-08 00:20am
Perhaps if you explore some new ideas that
would help. It will take your mind off the
ED and allow you to focus on pleasure for
you and your girl. Many times guys have ED
problems due to performance anxiety. Once
you relax and allow yourself to just go
with the moment you may find you maintain
your erection. Try using different lubes,
oils (made for sexual use), vibes (to use
on her and you), c-ring, etc. You will
take the focus off your ability to
maintain an erection. This can be all it
takes. You may want to talk to your doctor
and let him know you are having some
issues with ED. You are young so it is
improbable that it signifies any other
medical condition but it would be prudent
to let your doctor know. You can ask your
doctor for some viagra. No harm in helping
yourself get through this and have
confidence again. Hope some of this helps.
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i hear ya, sort of... Posted: 09-13-08 05:28am
I've hear what your talking about, but
only with women that I didn't enjoy, or
women that are lazy, but never someone I'm
with. I love to please women, I get off
from that as well. But a lot of women can
be self centered and extremely lazy, which
can be very boring sex to me. I've done
all kinds of sex to the quickie to
tantric. But the good sex has come from a
connection. To me that's what you're
missing. You may love each other, you may
get along great, but you're missing that
thing. I mean its possible for men and
women to cum without touch...nocturnal
emission, as well as other examples, i've
done it myself, as well as to other women.
If you're not into what is going, on the
moment is lost. I jus had sex, I didn't
cum unfortunately. She did, but she
wasn't willing to work hard enough to
please me, or follow me lead of where I
wanted her to go with things. She didn't
connect. She came...b/c I pay attention
to where things were going. But after an
hour of sex in the shower, a blow job, a
hand job, and two condoms later, i still
wasn't done. She was...she had no energy
to fulfill where I wanted to go with
things. No big deal b/c she's not my
girl. But when I had my girlfriends that
I loved (only 2) they enjoy pleasing me as
well. It was mutual, we were into the
same romantic moment, or the new fantasy,
or the kinky fetishes we both desire.
You're missing that in your relationship.
Communicate your fantasies with one
another, whether during sex, or jus
casually. If its uncomfortable to talk
about your in the wrong relationship.
Everyone has desires and fantasies,
everyone. But drugs aren't necessary, to
me they are jus cover up for people
unattracted to the people they are with,
whether its phyiscal or mental. good
luck..lol
At your age it
could be a number of things from every day
stress to riding a bike to much. (yes a
bike seat is said to sometimes cause these
issues)
