Hi i'm ashley and i just found out i'm
pregnant about a week ago. i havent been
to a doctor yet so i dont know exactly how
far along i am. the day i was supposed to
start my period, my fiance and i got drunk
with the neighbors. well he's an
alcoholic and he gets violent when he
drinks too much. that night i went with
him to his work because he had some stuff
to do. we were already arguing and he
ended up pulling me out of the car and he
swung me too hard and he basically threw
me. when i refused to leave with him he
drove away after threatening to wreck my
car. i was alone at the shop so i ran
into the back door which i happened to
know they keep unlocked and called the
cops. he actually only drove around the
corner and then came looking for me but
the cops found him before he found me.
they arrested him and he was charged with
domestic abuse and one of the stipulations
of his bail is that he cannot have contact
with me. a few days later i realized my
peroid was four days late and i took a
test. deep down inside i wanted it to be
positive because we always wanted a child
together and i hadnt been on birth control
for that reason. well i got what i asked
for but the timing is horrible. i was
able to let him know that i'm pregnant and
we do want to try to work things out. i
have a feeling that the responsibility of
having a child will motivate him to quit
drinking. he has quit before but he
started hanging out with the neighbors
more when i worked late and thats why he
started again. he's also on probabation
and he's probably going to go to jail for
at least six months. all of this makes me
very depressed because now my family hates
him and it feels like our relationship has
no hope. i love him very much and i want
to have a family with him and i do want to
marry him but so much has been working
against us. i don't know what to do or if
i can even do anything. i just want us to
go back to the way we were when he wasnt
drinking and we were happy and when i felt
that we were stable enough to have a baby,
and i mean financially and emotionally
stable. now we are neither and i'm
pregnant. i dont want to have an abortion
but i have considered it because of the
circumstances. before that night i knew
where my life was going and i felt safe
and everything was wonderful. now i feel
like my life is falling apart and
everythings going to hell. we are both so
excited about the baby and it breaks my
heart because we cant even be together.
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Posted: 07-05-07 21:31pm
it will all even itself out and only time
can direct yall in the right direction
i hope things get better
if you ever need to talk feel free to PM
me
