I suggest that you look on the net & in the local/city phone book for support groups for eating disorders many of these also provide books & support groups that are of use to family & friends this might therefore help you to be there for your friend, but bottom line is that you can not help her until & unless she's ready to help herself.

I know this may be very hard for you to understand but please try to. I went through the exact same thing that you are going through about a year and a half ago. Your friend has a huge problem and it's very obvious that you care a great deal about her. I know this may be very hard for you to understand but you need to help her somehow, even if that means hurting her feelings for a period of time. True friends are the ones who would sacrifice a bit of themselves and/or the friendship in order to help their friend out when they need you the most. Your friend needs you now more than ever, even if she doesn't say it.
For several years my friend had an eating disorder and I did little about it. I should have done something when I first suspected it. My friend was anorexic and bolemic. My friend made me swear that I wouldn't tell anyone but at one point I realized I had to break that promise. My friend would have died if I had not broken that promise. Eating disorders can kill you easier than what you would think. I realized that I loved my friend so much that I had to help her before it was to late even if that meant ending our friendship. I told her coach and parents and pleaded them to help her. My friend is now receiving help but it will take the rest of her life to recover. We haven't had the best relationship but I feel very good knowing that I helped her before it was to late. If I had a problem I would hope my friends would do the same for me. Keeping a promise to a friend to hide something is ok to a point. Keeping that promise changes when someone is being harmed. When someone needs help and you are the only person to do that it's time to draw a line.
I know this is a very difficult thing for you and your friend but it is also a huge and very serious issue. I beg you to get help for your friend. Try to support her in her efforts. Don't just assume that she has help, she probably isn't or needs a lot more. I'm almost in tears responding to you, that's how important it is. I'm pleading to you to please help your friend before it is to late. It's better to have her alive and not have the best relationship than to not be alive at all. True friends are hard to come by but she needs one right now. Good luck with everything. I'll hold you both in my prayers and heart. She needs you. Please reply back. I'd love to hear from you.

you need to start thinking about yourself. You have spent a long time worrying about your friend. There are places to help her, she needs to find that help and help herself. You should not be a crutch, you could actually be supporting and reinforcing her behaviour by listening to every detail, and giving her so much attention on the negative things that she does. Try going for a few days without the two of you mentioning her problem at all and see if you can get some normality in your relationship. I'm sure you have your own problems too. People with eating disorders can getting very obsessed with their own behaviour and can drag other people into their world. You need to have your own life and she needs to find her own strength. I am speaking from experience so please try it.

I had one year in high school where everything went wrong. I was bulimic, depressed I started cutting my self I was a messs, my best friends were going through a lot too, I can remember there was time we sat on the bathroom floor just crying for about an hour and it was hard but we all got help and worked through things. Things got better. But theres one thing you have to realize your friend needs help and you hve to tell her to get help tell an adult, a counsellor or something. You can't get pulled into how she is, you have to distance your self from here problems and let someone who knows more about what shes going through help her. If you want to talk pm me any thing I can tell you about what I went through I will.

My roommate is bulemic and I think that this causes a lot more problems in her life. My problem is that she is fully educated on the ways that she is hurting herself and that it can kill her. She absolutly refuses to go to treatment and her parents can't seem to make her go. I feel like I am out of options but I am so worried.

Im actually going through the same thing. I recently noticed my roomate getting sick in the afternoon and i feel terible about this....but i havent actually confronted her yet. I also had a ED When i was younger so It came as a shock to me, I started noticeing a difference in myself I stoped making dinner because she stoped but soon got ou of the habbit because i cook when my boyfriend is round which is alot. I keep saying Ill talk to her but my bf and her bf always seem to be around so its hard to get the chance.
I now have to go to the doctor tomorrow because Of my iron and stress which is making me feel sick every time i eat but to be honest I think its because of whats going on with her.

My friend is going through bulimia also. She started out at 115 pounds, she is about 5' 4" and had a great body in the first place. She has been doing this for about 2 and a half weeks now and she is now down to 97 pounds. She thinks she looks great, she is horrifying. Her bones are sticking out, she walks with a hunch in her back and her arms across her stomache as if she is hiding 'fat' or something. She is so beautiful and had such a great head on her shoulders, yet she is screwing up her life this way. Im seriously worried about her. My aunt just dies yesterday as of 7:36 am, due to a major brain blood clot, also knows as serious mannerism. It started out with bulimia, the way people hold their head over to vomit has something to do with the main artery leading to your brain, if your move your neck wrong when dry heaving, it can pinch the artery and send you straight to an mannurism. Scarry. Its hard to know that someone you loved just passed from something your closest friend is doing. My friend is only 15 and is struggling eriously with it! It hurts to think about it, im trying to think of something i can do. At this point im stuck. It sucks to sit her and wonder if your friends going to make it out of this alive, sitting back knowing there isnt a damn thing you can do to stop her. She has to stop herself, when she realizes she will quit, but until then? What can i say?

i also have also struggled through an eating disorder and i used to tell my friends that knew about it that i was going to stop, but i only said it so that they would leave me alone. Your friend needs you more than you can understand, she will never admit it, but in her mind she knows how much she needs you. Her pride is just a little hurt so she wont admit it. You really need to get her help. It may damage your friendship at first but she will thank you later on. When i was going through my eating disorder i was throwing up 5 to 9 times a day and one day my friend walked in on me because i forgot to lock the door and she freaked out at first, but when i told her i was stopping she calmed down, but i just kept on for almost another year. Then one day me and my friend went out to eat chinese and i told her i really needed to pee (probably not the best excuse) and she busted into my stall after a few minutes (thats right, she broke the lock on the stall just to help me) i was mad at her for a long time, it was really only because i was embarrassed but i know she would not have done anything if she didnt care about me. I came to her one day and apologised to her for getting mad at her because i knew i was just letting my pride get in the way. She is still my best friend to this very day and so far my bulimia is a thing of the past =)