Please Someone Tell Me Why I Cant Enjoy Sex!!

Have you ever tried lube? It sounds like you might not be wet enough. What kind of pain is it exactly?

Yes, i have tried lub being wet enough is not the issue lol, the pain is during intercourse when he is inside me its like he is in and pushing agenst a brick wall, no matter if it his penis or his fingers its the same pain just as it is when i put a tampon in regardless of the size of the object it hurts.

Hey! I know what you're going through, I've always had painful sex, every single time, it really puts a strain on the relationship and even stops me from enjoying it. Is it painful all throughout sex, or is it just when the guy enters you?

First of all I'd suggest going to see your doc, to rule out any physical problems (like pelvic inflammatry disease or emdometriosis) that could be causing this. If everything turns out fine, it could be a psychological block, this is called vaginismus.

Make an appointment with your doc and see what she says. There are ways around this, so don't worry.

I think that source is just solicitation... I'd advise it be removed...

Edited, though I don't really see what was wrong with it

Thanks.

It was selling a product, and posting links to places that advertise products is solicitation. That's not allowed on ehealth. Links so sites that simply provide helpful information are welcome.

Oh ok, sorry about that. I'll be more careful next time

You may always feel tender. The best (if you have an understanding partner) would be for your partner to sit motionless and for you to be on top slowly easing it in and doing all the motion to avoid uncomfortable feelings as much as possible. The feeling that it's hitting against a brick wall is probably from him thrusting deep before your vagina has expanded to adjust to fit his penis. This particular sensation can be avoided if you slowly lower yourself on him and slowly move up and down to the depth that feels comfortable. If you had an epiziotomy (this is done quite routinely during vaginal deliveries) when you gave birth, then you will have a scar on your vaginal wall that may remain tender for years. You may also try to face his feet while you are sitting on him and then lowering yourself gently onto him. The differing curvature of his penis when inserted from that side and the varying front and back protrusions on the head of the penis will make contact with different internal areas on your vagina if you are facing to the rear (or even to the side, experiment) and may not make contact with those tender spots. Also, since you have not actually had intercourse since you got pregnant, you may notice that you are looser now and that there may be less tenderness due to tightness (although the tender feeling may never completely go away). Go slow, stay lubricated, and try to control the movement yourself as much as possible since it will be hard to describe to your partner what hurts and what doesn't hurt if he's banging quickly away inside of you with little opportunity for you to adjust the movement.