Time Span Between Children (Page 1)

for the mothers sake or the childrens??

my husband and his sister are 11 months apart and are very close. but there is no way i could ever do that.

our perfect number that were talking about is 2 and a half years-3 years. right around the age 2 mark were going to try again (give or take a few months)
i feel that at least that way you give your body a break, the first child some alone time, and when the baby comes the toddler is old enough to maybe understand things a little bit more and they are getting to that age where they are a little bit more independent.

We want our four children less than 2 years apart. Ava's 8 months and we're trying right now.
I can't wait to have another baby.

hah you are a stronger women then i am!!
i would love to have all mine close together but as bad as it sounds i just hate being pregnant...well im also saying this when im in the final 2 weeks and am super uncomfortable.

i read what you wrote on the other topic too.
im like you in that i want to be done having all our kids by the time im 26 and i want 3

How old are you?? I loved being pregnant from what I remember. I'm sure when heartburn, discharge, and restless leg syndrome kicks in I'll remember not liking it very much. I loved my big belly though and feeling all those kicks.

I've said since .Kaylee was born that I wanted to try for another one when she's 1, & now that we're getting a house we'll be able too because we'll have room .. Pretty much whatever happens after my 21st birthday (.July 28th) is fine with me
My sister & brothers are pretty far apart & none of us get along hardly at all. I'm 20, my sister is 17, my one brother is 13 & my youngest brother is 6 so we're pretty far spread out.
I want my kids to be close enough in age so they can kind of grow up together.

i'll be 22 on the 24th.

i figure if i pop another one out in about 2 years and one more after that im right on track lol.

im sure i will forget how much i hate it when im holding her in a few weeks.

i've got a few weeks left and i'm still loving it, uncomfortable as it is. i wouldn't mind having another one soon as long i was able to get in good enough shape to start out with. but i probably won't be doing that because i need to get my schooling finished and work on us being more financially ready for the second one. i hate to set up a big plan because you never know what life will throw at you but i'm thinking if i wait 3 or 4 years to try for second baby i'll still be 35 or younger and we will have time to be more ready than we are the first time around. i also want so badly to be married and feel bad that we got pregnant before we were married. but, like i said, life just happens sometimes and you gotta roll with it. so for all my planning i just really hope i don't get preggers right after this one cuz that would be too much!! maybe i'll just abstain from sex for 3 years lol. (not)

My brother and I are 3 years apart, and we grew up like twins nearly, we're so close. Then again, we moved every 2-3 years so we were our only friends haha XD I've always felt more comfortable with people younger than myself and I think that's the reason. I'm the older sibling lol.

I really think it depends on the children's personalities.

There is a 14 and 13 year age difference between me and my two older brothers. My parents divorced and my father remarried. My father had two girls who are 7 and 14 years younger. I am in the middle. It was basically just my mom and I and I felt extremely lonely as a child. I really wanted a sibling closer in age.

There is almost a 4 year age difference between my husband and his brother. There will also be close to a 4 year age difference between are two children.

My husband has never been that close to his brother because they were just very different in personalities. I am fairly close to my brother who is 13 years older and used to be closer to my sister who is 7 years younger. I really have never fought with any of my siblings because of the age gap. I will never understand what it's like to have a really close connection with siblings, though.

I feel a little guilty because I really wanted our children to be closer in age. A two year age difference sounds ideal. You just never know. I guess I will see how their personalities come about.

My older sisters and I have a span of 11 and 9 years respectively with me being the youngest. I also have a younger brother with an almost 5 year gap between the two of us.

I was never close with either of my older sisters. They always tried to act like my mother when I was very young and tried to boss me around a lot. Most of the time, it was not out of a concern for my personal safety either, it was just to boss me around. I really resented the way I was treated, still do, and finally felt better when they both moved out (though they both came right back knocked up).

My younger brother and I are close now but we weren't always. Growing up, since he was the boy, the baby, the little prince, he received the most attention, the best clothes (I had to wear hand-me-downs for a long time), the best toys, and the fewest rules and chores. He would also physically pick on me until I picked back because he knew they wouldn't reprimand him, only me. When he finally grew out of his obnoxious phase, we became very good friends and still are. Further, with the gap between us, my parents were able to not have two college tuitions to pay at the same time. I was graduated and looking at grad school by the time my brother graduated from high school.

From experience, .i.f I have more than one child (a big .i.f), they will more than likely be spaced four to five years a part if not a little longer. However, since I am only planning for one child, they will have all of their undregraduate and graduate, medical, or law school paid for so that they do not have to work as hard as I have. I would want the same for any additional child I had so I would do my best to space them far enough apart to make that a possibility. I have friends who have had it harder than me in school because their parents, while making enough to provide a decent life while growing up, could not afford multi-tuition expenses for their closely spaced children and yet made too much money for any of the children to qualify for grants or most scholarships. I also do not think my sanity could handle more than one small child at a time and I would not want to divide my time or attention unequally between them.
Peace,
Jenn

I think it depends on the parents and what their situation is like. My mom always had two in diapers and she said it was tough, but she wouldn't change it. But she had my dad. If I were a parent whose significant other was often out of town, etc, I would space my children out more.

my first two are ten months apart and there would of been a year between my 2nd and 3rd babies but i miscarried at 21 weeks. i am looking to try for another baby in the middle of next year hopefully so layla will be 4 and logan will be 3 when s/he is born

there is 17 years between me and my sister and she is more like a daughter to me but you can tell we are sisters cause we still argue like sisters even with the age gap!

There was just under 4 years between me and my sister, i like the age gap because we were similar enough ages to be really close but not similar enough to annoy eachother if you understand what i mean. My sister's kids have 14 months bewtween them, she's coped very well and it wasn'tt oo dificult for her but being pregnant so soon after her first pregnancy did mean that she didn't enjoy her second pregnancy very much.
In an ideal world i'd have another when .Mika's about 2-3 but i know that can't happen due to my finacial situation