I'm not exactly sure how I would react to this. I know I would not be happy, that's for sure. I think my first step, would be to sit down with my husband and my child and have a nice long chat. I plan on talking to my kids early about the effects of drugs/alcohol/smoking, so hopefully they will understand that they are not healthy and stay away from them.

I would take it, call a family meeting, and have my brother talk to them. He's been through hell and back with drugs and he's only 19.

ahhhh this subject scares me already and my child is still in the womb!

id take it very seriously.. aa or na classes, counseling, and pretty much household lock down with random drug testing.

my brother experimented with drugs in high school and my parents found a note from his friend to him expressing his concern. they went with him to na classes and had him randomly drug tested. he hasnt touched them since.

i hope by the time in my daughters life where she is tempted she will have enough respect and love and guidance from me that even if she did experiment that seeing my disappointment in her for making a poor choice would help her stop. i know that this is what prevented me from ever doing drugs.. seeing my mom cry.

not to mention i have a cracked out uncle who is so burnt out from heroine he has hiv and the mentality of a 4 year old.
we would just go visit uncle joey in his home and volunteer..

If I found a highly addictive drug then I would see about sending my child to a drug treatment center. If it was MJ, then I would do continuous random drug testing. I would also find some classes and have him attend. If he had his license, I would take away driving privileges for a while as well. I want to make sure he is completely clean for awhile before driving. I know there would be a chance that my child could run away as my sister did, but I would have to take that chance. I believe in tough love to a certain extent.

My immediate family have been ruined by drugs and alcohol. We have highly addictive personalities, so I would take this very seriously. I have an older brother who basically lives on the streets. That one sister is thankfully doing great now.

People in my family usually don't stop with the "experimenting" stage due to the highly addictive personalities. I just pray that my sons don't have those genes!

Good topic!!

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I would Look for the reason behind it. Why he turned to a drug in the first place. Deal with whats really going on with him, and try to prevent that happening by educating him about drugs and their effects etc.

EDUCATION.

If you educate someone on the 'why's", then they can truly understand the reasoning behind the dangerous nature of drug use.

Simply yelling and screaming will not work, you have to talk, educate, and give them chances to make better choices in the future.

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i agree with everyone else. there would be some serious counselling and education going on. my sister is a drug addict and i will not let my child take that path. even marijuana is unsafe these days despite the fact that a lot of people think it's harmless. it is addictive and it's being sold by the same people who manufacture the really dangerous and highly addictive drugs. i would take it pretty seriously. prevention is the best way to fight addiction.

First thing I'd do is remove the drugs and destroy them. Then all privileges the kid has would be removed (including a license if they have it), I would put him or her in counseling, and then I would teach them why drugs are not a healthy or favorable lifestyle, and how they can be potentially fatal under certain circumstances.

If I found drugs again or found out they were doing or getting drugs elsewhere, they'd be sent to boarding school, boot camp or would get kicked out of the house - they want to be potheads or crack addicts, they can do it in someone else's house.

My parents found all sorts of drugs in my brother's room when he was in highschool. They kept destroying it whenever they found it, destroyed any paraphenalia they found, made him go to na, and locked up any valuables and hid any cash they had.

No matter what they did, it didn't seem to work. He got picked up at school one day with marajuana residue in a small tin in his backpack and was arrested. The court gave the option of going to a treatment facility or doing community service and paying off the ticket. My parents spent his college education savings on a drug treatment program. My brother went there to get control on his drug problem, not necessarily to stop using all drugs. My mother sent him there thinking they would cure him of ever using drugs again.

My brother is not allowed to live at my parent's house anymore, he lives with me or with our biological father. He still smokes pot regularly. Thankfully, though, he has stopped using the hard drugs.

At some point, you've done all you can do and all that is left is to kick them out as my parents had to do. It's up to him to stop using all drugs and he won't do that until he is ready to. Sometimes you can do all you can for them, and they are still going to use drugs.

Best of luck to any parent dealing with this.
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Jenn

first of all, i wouldn't be invading my child's privacy and going through their room unless i suspected there was something to find. so if i did find something i wouldn't be surprised, since i was looking for something in the first place. (are you all planning on regularly going through your kids' rooms?)

if i found marijuana, i honestly wouldn't do anything. i'd put it back where i found it and not even mention it. i would, however, keep an eye on their grades and stuff. if i notice a negative change in grades or anything else, then i'd say something.

if i found anything else, i would confiscate it and there would be a big talk. i don't know where it would go from there, it would depend on what i found. i hope it never comes to that.

I went through a phase where I smoke marijuana for about a year or so regularly and the I just stopped and never touched it again and don't want to. I went to college and had too much to risk it going down the drain.
My brother on the other hand started with marijuana and my parents knew, but didn't stop him then it went to pills, tabs, cocaine, etc. and he ended up getting busted twice and in jail for 2 months. Now he's in the process of rehab and attending 8 meetings a week. It's interferring with him getting a job b/c no one will give him all that time off.
I personally wouldn't just ignore weed. I can't lead to other things depending on the person.

i didn't say i'd ignore it, i said i'd keep an eye on them and their behavior. i believe weed is harmless and unless it was interfering with their life, i wouldn't say anything.

i'm sorry about your brother, but i wouldn't blame the weed. he chose to try it and then he chose to move on to harder things, it was his addictive personality that caused the problem.

My last sentence meant to read, "It can lead to other things depending on the person."

Hmmm the way i would react would be different depending on the type of drug in was, if i found crack or heroin in their room then i would get them into a detox straight away but if it was cannabis i would probably sit them down and try to find the reason behind them smoking it, i would find it very hipocritical to tell them not to do it because i've done it myself so i wouldn't actually say straight out 'don't do it or you're in big trouble' but i'll do my very best to educate them on the bad points and encourage them not to do it.

the thing is, how do you know the cannabis is just cannabis? there are a lot of incidents of it being laced with other drugs around where i live. the drug dealers are not friendly hippies growing it in their back yard. they are scumbags who want to get kids addicted to hard drugs so that they always have a market to sell to. once you have someone addicted, you don't have to advertise to them anymore. around here it is the same people selling weed that sell crack, meth, heroin and 12 year old girls so i don't see it as being a harmless drug at all and i will make sure my kids know that.

Oh god no i'm not saying that it's harmless at all! I'm just saying that i would find it hard to tell them not to do it when it's something that i've done myself and i would feel like a hyprocrite, of course i will discourage it as much as i possibly can if it was to happen in the future with either .Mika or anymore children or indeed y neice or nephew. In my area cannabis is just cannabis, there have been no reports of anything else being mixed with it, apart from when the dealers try to rip you off and give you pizza herbs that is

sorry danni, i didn't really think you meant that. i just get all up in arms about this because i know so many people that think it's harmless and some who even preach that it's good for you and "organic". i've lost some lifelong friends over the issue because they love getting high so much that if you say anything about it they will ditch you before their weed which says a little bit about whether they are addicted or not. it's just so scary because i read in the paper that the gangs are putting their teenage members outside schools, and not just high schools, handing out free crack to kids along with a phone number where they can get more once they've tried it. my sister started out as a pothead and now she is addicted to crack and no matter how hard she tries to get off of it she can't seem to leave it behind. it has taken over her life and i don't even know who she is anymore, definitely not who she used to be. so i didn't mean to imply anything, it's just something i get all worked up about.