Can't Ejaculate By Hand Or Oral, Only Vaginal Sex Posted: 06-27-07 08:23am
I am a 37yo male. I can't ejaculate w/o
vaginal sex. I don't have a problem
getting an erection or staying hard. As a
kid I had wet dreams, but they consisted
of me getting ready to climax and then
grabbing my penis and running to the
bathroom to let it out. I did not know
masturbation and ejactulation was apart of
life and healthy for me to do. To this day
I have never been able masturbate and
ejaculate. I have been frustrated all my
life with this, but just thought it was a
part of who I was. Now, my new wife is
getting really frustrated. She gets upset
that she can't get me to climax either by
hand or orally. The problem is that I can
not climax unless I am have sex with a
woman and am inside her, and here lately
my climaxes have gone down to about once a
month, even though we have sex almost
every day. . Please help
I thought it might be a medicaiton I take,
but since I have had this problem long
before I was ever on medication I doubt
that is it?
I don't think it is a low sperm count,
beause in March we had sex alot and the
one time I ejaculated she got pregnant.
Lots of sex........minimal cum.
Frustrated in Texas
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-27-07 10:22am
Have you talked to a doctor about this?
They're often very helpful when people
have problems.
Many men complain of pe, but there are
also a lot of men like you out there, so
I'm sure there's something a doctor can do
to help you.
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grmc3
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Joined: 26 Jun 2007 Posts: 8 Location: DFW, TEXAS
Posted: 06-27-07 12:54pm
what dr would i go to? my regular dr?
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HealthySex
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Posted: 06-27-07 14:13pm
How are aware you of your pelvic floor
muslces? These are often called the PC
muscles, but it would be more correct to
call them BC muscles for males. These are
the muscles that you would use to hold in
urine, or defecation even as there are
more than just one muscle. Strengthening
them can also affect erection rigidity.
Many men, including myself find these
muscles trigger ejaculation. I too could
receive oral (except by the really
talented) and handjobs and not ejaculate.
However, I can contract these muscles and
trigger ejaculation. I believe I read
somewhere that it presses on the prostate
which triggers emission. I also use these
muscles when masturbating to reach orgasm.
Contracting them I can masturbate in under
a minute. If I didn't I give up out of
boredom. During sex they contract almost
naturally because of the difficulty of
keeping them relaxed from the pleasure,
the movement and position.
So try to exercise these muscles. You can
find many programs online. Search PC
muscles or kegels. Realize that relaxing
them is important too, so don't just try
to hold them as long as you can.
Another thing to mention is Histamine
levels. Men and women with low levels have
more difficulty in achieving orgasm, while
those with high levels have the opposite.
A doctor can check your levels.
Edit: Although you had the problems before
medication, there are still medications
that could cause it. So if you still have
problems, look into it.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 06-27-07 15:50pm
grmc3
wrote:
what dr would i go to? my
regular dr?
You can start there and ask for a
recommendation to go to a doctor who deals
more specifically with men and their
sexual health.
