i am a new user to this forum but i have the million dollar question that i'm poretty sure more than one person has and it is mainly for the girls. i am currently talking to a girl that i have a very profound interest in. she has just separated from a 4 year long relationship and is currently not looking for a bf. i have been battling self esteem issues all my life and with this problem i feel that her telling me that she is not over her relationship is just a nice way of saying "wait until you get tired and then we can go out" i know if this is the case then i'm better off without her. im an honest person and i dont care about feelings especially mine since they have been battered from childbirth lol. but i wish to just get it over with. she seem genuinely interested in me but i have a hard time discerning whether or not these are true feelings or my perception of the situation. i really dont want to rush things but i feel as if i'm pushing and pushing for something that could potentialy upset me in the future. but back to what i was saying. how long does it really take someone to get over something like that. she moved away from her last bf. i just need some advice i dont want to be wasting my time if its not neccesary. but i also dont want to ruin what could have been a great relationship / friendship. i have already told her how i feel several times but with the same response. i need some help and A.S.A.P.