I am so sorry for your loss.

Unfortunately, there are a few mom's here that have been through similar experiences. I'm sure they will be along soon to offer some help.

I'm sorry that your husband has been treating you so badly. YOu need support right now, not someone telling you that you are responsible. Sometimes, these things just happen. Why does he think that you are the cause?

He feels that my exercise routine would have had an effect on the baby. The Doc says that exercising is good.

So very sorry for your loss. I do think your husband is looking for someone to blame and you are the closest link. It is not your fault and exercising had nothing ot do with this. I truely believe its natures way of letting us know something is not right before hand. I have a best friend who has wanted children her entire life. She was married twice but never got pregnant. She just turned 42 and (by accident) just found out she was pregnant. She was 8 weeks along and the heart beat could not be detected. I took her myself to the hospital.She was devastated becasue her only thought was, hey, I could get pregnant and when I did look what happened." The entire time, I was trying to help her to realize it was nothing she had done or could have done to have prevented this. You need to know in your heart, you are not responsible for this. Do no listen to your husband, if need be send him down the road a while. It breaks my heart to even think about him blaming you. You are already an emotional mess and he is only making matter worse.....only if you allow him too. You are gonna be just fine sweetie. Who knows what the future holds for you? We can't get back yesterday, but we can hope for tomorrow! Always here to tr yto help!

sweety i know EXACTLY how you feel. I just found out friday that at 10 weeks our baby did not make it. I personaly opted for the surgical d&c due to the fact that a very close friend of mine did the natural way and due to complications and infection she still had to go thru the surgery anyway. It was the fastest way I could think of to start the grieving and healing both physicaly and menatly.
please be sure that this was because of nature and things being wrong on a genetic level. It is natures way of taking care of things because the baby would not have made it anyway. Exce3rsize is always encouraged unless you were having complications.

Did your husband come to the other appointment? did he read any of the literature about pregnancy? He may need to see a councelor.

My self i feel so empty and sad. I even saturday evening was so angry and I wanted someone to hurt as much as I hurt... I gloved up and my kickboxing partner just let me one sided spar... that takes guts just to take that many hits from someone hurting that much.

I am so sorry for you and your family and I know that things look bleak, but look to each other and if you can have your friends and family help. the more you talk about it the easier...


if you need to talk please pm me.. i will be home resting all week