I'm truly sorry that your going through this...............it really is the children that suffer the most....................but just keep in mind that there's 2 sides to every story............

1) Don't tell your mom over the phone.............no matter how tempting.....there's nothing she can do about it from there............and she'll only be miserable

2) Consider sitting down and having a "talk" with your dad.............if he is approachable..................there really may be something that didn't even occur to you.................things are not so "black and white"

3) It may not even be your place to "say" anything.............this is an adult problem that you should not be burdened with...............if you must involve yourself.............. tell your dad "if you don't fess up, I'll do it for you".................and when the "talking" starts.............disappear.............. .

I personally think you should confront your father. I was in your shoes 14 years ago and now that I have my own family, I know that parents need to be held accountable for thier actions. Everything a parent does effects your children, good or bad! No, we can not hide behind this curtain of Grown Folks business, when we get caught doing something wrong!! BS!!!It is your business, because you are a part of that family, so if you caught him you have the right to question. Now, if he chooses to seperate then okay that is between your mom and dad, their relationship you can not mend. But, get on your dads a$$. I wish I would have!!Parents would get a huge reality check if kids started to call them out on the senseless crap they do. Or this will make him confront an issue quick fast and in a hurry!

I am in your shoes only my mother cheated my father.the other difference is she told my family.I was mad at her and so was everyone else.she stopped talking to the man.He worked with us at our job and everyone knew about it which was very embarassing to me. Later she talked to him a little and said they could only be friends.Now she hangs out with him when he is around (he;s in the military) and she says they're just friends but i'm not stupid.I hate him and told her if he ever came to our house, i'd taze him with my tazer.my parents have been married for over 20 years and all of a sudden everything is falling apart. They have worked through everything and stayed together.I personally don't think its right for her to still be hanging out with the man btus he uses the excuse that she has no friends and no life and he is the only friend she has.(knock on wood)I have high hopes for him when he goes back from his leave (If you know what I mean).you can pm me anytime,I definetly know what your going through.