Partners Reaction to Becoming a Parent Posted: 06-24-07 06:57am
why is my partner so unhappy and
stressed.he wanted kids but now im
pregnant hes acting like its not real.he
wont even talk about things.he says he
wants the baby but its all really weird.we
dont even have sex,kiss or cuddle any
more.its as if im invisible.
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HcoBrunette06
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Posted: 06-24-07 10:12am
he's probably really scared, now that
you're pregnant it's probably really hit
him that he's actually going to be a
father. he shouldn't stop cuddling with
you or kissing you though... hopefully he
snaps out of that quick, but a lot of guys
get scared when they find out, but
hopefully he'll come around! good luck and
congrats!
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kaerbear
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Joined: 10 Apr 2007 Posts: 1557 Location: ,
Posted: 06-24-07 13:26pm
my guy was kind of like this at the
beginning of the pregnancy. he was just
scared and a bit overwhelmed at how much
of a responsibility we were getting
ourselves into. it could be a good sign
that he takes it very seriously and isn't
going into it lightly. he could be a
little bit weirded out that you are
carrying his child and he is suddenly
looking at you differently than he ever
has before. it may take him a while to
get used to the fact that he is going to
be a dad and that life will never be the
same again. i know how hard it can be
with guys because they tend not to talk
about what they are thinking and feeling
with us. you could maybe sit him down and
tell him calmly that you would really love
to know exactly what his feelings are
about the baby (if you think you can
handle what he is going to say). he may
be having doubts, but it can be good to
vocalize those doubts with someone who
isn't going to judge or be offended by
them. we had a few low spots early on in
our pregnancy because i felt so alone and
like all of a sudden he saw me as a
burden. i told him how i felt and asked
him to please share with me how he was
feeling so i wouldn't feel so alone. it's
taken time but the longer we stay
together, the more he trusts that he can
open up to me and i won't judge what he is
feeling and i won't use it against him
later. i find that a lot of the time when
i think he is sitting there thinking deep
thoughts about how the baby will impact
our lives or something like that, he is
actually just thinking about a renovation
job he has coming up and what bills need
to be paid. a lot of guys tend to think
in really practical terms that way and it
may be that your guy is just working out
the financial details of having a new
member of the family, or something like
that.
i hope he comes around and the two of you
will be able to communicate better. good
luck.
