| beckster06 wrote: |
if a woman has an abortion and goes on to have a wanted pregnancy how does having an abortion affect it?
does it make her feel guilty even if she didn't before? does she keep thinking about how her new baby would of had a brother or sister?
personal experiences and opinions please  |
Having friends who have had abortions and who also have one, or more, healthy children now, I can only tell you what they have told me.
Most .women who are going through an unintended pregnancy don't view all of their pregnancies together as a set. Rather, they tend to view them within the situation that they arose. For example, my good friend Jessica had an abortion in highschool because she was young, poor, and did not want to be tied to the guy (date rape). She views the abortion positively because the situation in which the unintended pregnancy occurred was horrible and the abortion ended that situation. Recently, she became pregnant (planned) and had her first child. The situations which produced the pregnancies are totally and completely different. She consented, for one, she's married to a nice man, they recently purchased a home, she has a stable career, etc. No, she does not think that her child would have had a brother or sister because legal or not, safe or not, she was not going to remain pregnant the first time.
None of my friends felt guilty for having an abortion, even when they did have children because they, like the majority of .women who have abortions, view their pregnancies differently based on the situations in which they occurred. Several of my friends felt guilty that they even became pregnant in the first place when they did not want to or could not remain pregnant and most of them, including myself, felt anger and rage at our chosen methods of birth control. But at the time, it was the best decision possible. Knowing this, knowing that the situation was not right to bring a new life through our bodies, is a fairly proficient buffer against guilt.