My Best Friend Is Bulimic ! Posted: 06-23-07 12:43pm
Almost two weeks ago, my best friend told
me she made herself throw up. A lot.
Apparently she'd been doing it for about
two months when she told me. She hardly
eats anything. Just enough so people won't
call her anorexic, then she makes herself
throw up. I tried to help at first, but I
didn't really know how. We've really only
been friends for like six months, and it's
been pretty patchy. I don't know what to
do.
A while back, probably a little after she
started, she and a friend told me (in an
instant message on the internet) that they
made themselves throw up. I got really,
really mad (a mistake, I know) and then
they told me they were just joking.
Apparently, the girl I'm closer to wasn't
joking. But she didn't want me to be that
mad at her all the time.
Well, to get back at them, and to see if
they cared about me, I told them I'd made
myself throw up. But I said only once. It
was lie, and I regret it.
For like two weeks after that, my friend
was mad at me. Constantly. Calling me all
manner of names. Liar, hypocrite, health
forum, on and on. That whole time she was
mad at me for 'making myself throw up' she
made herself throw up every night. Yes, I
was a liar, but she was more of a
hypocrite and a health forum.
She told me that she thought I made myself
throw up more often, and she figured, "If
it's okay for her to do it, it's okay for
me."
Well, now, she's mad at me again. We've
been emailing (none of our other friends
know). She says I'm treating her like a
baby, or a mental patient. She told me to
stop caring, so I did. I still care, more
than ever, but I just kind of ignored her
at school. Not to the point that anyone
would notice, but I just wasn't going out
of my way to talk to her, like I usually
do. When we did talk, it was just surface
level.
Now she's calling me shallow, saying I
never cared, and, in the most recent
email, she said, "just wait till my
stomach gets ulcers and explodes. then
youll wish you'd done it differantly"
As far as she knows, only four people
know: me, her mom, her dad, and our
teacher (who is really cool and can help
her if she'll talk to her). I told my
counselor, but only because the whole deal
was really weighing down on me.
When she told me, I wasn't mad at all. I
just sat there, listening. Like I almost
always do for everybody. She asked our
teacher to tell her parents, and her mom
cried and locked herself in her room, and
her dad gave her a hug and said 'I love
you.'
Anyways, now she's mad 'cause I don't
listen or care or something like that. I'm
trying really hard not to scream "YOU
NEVER LISTEN TO ME, WHY SHOULD I LISTEN TO
YOU??"
What do I do? She won't even talk to me
except on email now, and I feel like she's
not even reading my emails before she
replies.
Help me! I don't know what to do.
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shawnamarie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 4 Location: Alamogordo, NM
Good Friend Posted: 06-25-07 15:48pm
I think you are a really good friend for
trying to help her. Have you tried to tell
her that you lied and what your reasoning
was for lying? And let her know how
worried you are about her. Have you talked
to her parents about it and are they
trying to get her medical treatment? Hope
everything works out for you!
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AdelaJoy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Jun 2007 Posts: 2 Location: Canada
Posted: 06-25-07 19:23pm
Yeah, we both know the whole story now.
It's still kinda in the way, 'cause she
just won't let it go.
She won't even talk to me now. She
completely ignored me today. How am I
supposed to tell how much I care and that
I'm worried?
I mentioned the word bulimia today and she
flipped, saying she isn't bulimic, that
bulimics 'binge and purge' and she doesn't
binge.
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v00d00cita
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Posted: 06-26-07 04:24am
Hey, you're being a very good friend, one
of a kind.
You do understand that it is very
complicated and will take a lot of time
and even more patience, but you'll be
there for her.
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smile4aileen
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2007 Posts: 5 Location: Oregon,
Posted: 07-25-07 16:40pm
She's being selfish. I told 2 of my
friends I was bulemic. They didnt take it
seriously. One even told almost everyone
in the school. the good thing is, people
think its just a rumor. Your friend should
be happy that she has a friend that's
trying to help her.
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smile4aileen
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jul 2007 Posts: 5 Location: Oregon,
Posted: 07-25-07 16:41pm
She's being selfish. I told 2 of my
friends I was bulemic. They didnt take it
seriously. One even told almost everyone
in the school. the good thing is, people
think its just a rumor. Your friend should
be happy that she has a friend that's
trying to help her.