I just found out that my boyfriend had sexual relations with 3 different women in the last 2 and 1/2 years. One he used a condom with, 2 he didn't, including the most recent one that just ended in early january. Two he was with only one time, this last one was 3-4 times. I am absolutley petrified with fear that he may have contracted hiv from one of them and passed it on to me, as we had sexual relations in the last couple of months. After we discussed making our relationship work (many years of problems...Used to be married, divorced, now living together), he admitted what he had done. I had also cheated, about 2 years ago, but he used a condom, and I got tested a year afterwards just to be on the safe side. I was not as freaked out then as I am now, obviously. I go from being angry at him for putting me at risk, to thinking, okay, maybe nothing happened, to being completely freaked out and thinking the worst. I am so embarrassed to go to my regular doctor or gynecologist, as they know both of our families and it's not a small town but it's not a major metropolitan city either. I saw the home access kits at walgreen's and looked them up on the internet. On the fda website, they are the only approved ones for home testing. How long should I wait to test? His last contact with another woman was the first week of january. I just found out 2 weeks ago about what had happened, after our discussion of what we wanted out of our relationship and we both agreed that we wanted to be together and we are putting 100% into this time. I'm so scared though. I don't want to think that I might have this, or he might. I think that I should not have sex with him anymore until I know, but then I think, well I already have so I couldn't do anymore harm. I am so confused! I would appreciate any advice/statistics/facts about my risk for getting hiv, or his risk, or when I should test and have him test. Thank you so much.