My bf has been smoking pure weed in excess for over 10 yrs. He's addicted in my opinion! When I ask him why he does it, he says he likes it to relieve boredom, to pass the time, to concentrate on details, and to relieve stress, not to mention the general high feeling it gives him. I am not a smoker so it is v hard for me to relate. I kinda see it as unnecessary escapism that does u a lot more harm than good in the end! All I see is the effects it has on him-- it changes him (& therefore how we relate)-- the red & slitty eyes, the slurred words and the general laziness. It really upsets me to see how dependent he is on it! He can go weeks without gettin anything done-- except maybe completing a few video games!

I've asked him to cut down for both our sakes. He tells me that he wants to do this, and he's also talked about quitting altogether for our future together BUT... he just can't do it! All his friends smoke. He gets it cheap as chips from a mate. He doesn't know wot can/will replace it & he's probably afraid of what it takes to get off it properly! It's a vicious circle! I want to help but I've got no idea where to start.

He's tried goin cold turkey- which he managed for about 3 months til the after-effects just got too much for him to bear! When he was off it he didn't socialise with his mates, he felt really stressed a lot of the time- which his body kept telling him in different ways, and he got really emotional about the smallest thing! Altogether he felt awful! I'd equate it to having PMT permanently!
So it's no wonder he went back to it. BUT... now what? How can he ever quit? & wot can I do to tolerate it & help him in the meantime (not to mention in future)?