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Q: Lubrication/Orgasm Issues

asked by: mustangman on June 21st, 2007

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I'm 21 and so is my girlfriend. I love her to death. We have been together for 2 years, taking things slow. Making love has always been difficult, but not as tough as right now. Seeing this gorgeous girl will make me instantly arroused, I have never seen anyone as sexy as her. She thinks the same as me. So she says, her body often says otherwise. Most of the time when we make love shortly after she is dry to the touch. She has never had an orgasm during intercourse but I can bring her to orgasm through oral in a minute. She thinks that me using a toy on her might help the situation. Sounds odd to me. I am begining to get discouraged. I'm not very turned on by this idea but I told her I would give it a try. I think that maybe the body chemistry might just not be there. Is this normal for some people? If it is does anyone know what might help the situation besides that?

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Willa Weintraub

replied on June 21st, 2007

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Re: Man Seeking a Little Advice

mustangman wrote:

do not take this the wrong way! this is very normal.some women can have lots of vaginal fluid to last forever some not so much.I get dry after about 10-15 minutes of sex and then I use lube.also,most women cannot orgasm from sex alone,but oral stimulation is the key! I assure you there is nothing wrong with you,its nature which means its out of your control! so don't feel bad!

Stan

replied on June 21st, 2007

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Yeah, I agree, totally normal. Guys, especially those that watch a lot of porn, not saying that's you, seem to think that women are always sopping wet all over the place all of the time. It's just not true, a variety of things can effect this, birth control being one of the most common. Also, many women cannot orgasm during sex simply because of the placement of their clitoris. Using a toy to help stimulate her is nothing odd at all, many women need this and it's perfectly normal and healthy, not to mention it works as far as I've heard.

sillyakchick

replied on June 21st, 2007

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My dh used to have a hang up about introducing a little toy play for clitoral stim, but he is now quite comfortable with it. You would be amazed at how some women respond to this. It's not you, though. Many women can't orgasm from intercourse alone. It's not because you are somehow lacking in size or technique. If she is asking to do this, then go for it. you may be quite pleased with the results.

The only other thing that i can think of is that some women who have been sexually abused sometimes have sexual hang-ups.

Llewellyn

replied on June 21st, 2007

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Like the others said, she's normal. You can't feel bad about yourself when that is just the way the female body sometimes is. Some women produce enough lubrication on their own, some don't. That's why they sell lubricants at the store.

As far as not orgasming during sex, also normal. A lot of women just don't orgasm during sex. More women orgasm through oral sex than any other way.

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