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Cutting Down On Masturbation to Help Sex Drive?

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Okay, well, I'm not gonna lie, I masturbate pretty frequently. Or atleast, I used to.

In the past week, I've cut down on masturbation so much, that the only time I might do it is before bed. Well, anyway, the cutting down has made the actual orgasm and act of masturbation better and more-fullfilling.

Now, the reason I've sort of been cutting down on the masturbation is because when me and my girlfriend have tried to have sex in the past, I could not get my penis erect enough to penetrate her vagina, and thus, I am left with a half-erect, condom-covered penis, and a horrible feeling that I've let down my girlfriend.

Well, chances are that last time we attempted, I was soo focused on getting it up, that I just made the problem worse. Well, anyway, my dilemna is precisely that. Will cutting of my "masurbatory tendancies" help me get it up when I am with my girlfriend? Honestly, it feels like it just might, as I'll just be craving the sexual pleasure even more when we are in the act.

But I'm just curious on what other people might say. Anybody have a problem like this? Also, the two times me and my girlfriend attempted to have sex, we were both somewhat drunk, and some of my friends have said that may have been the problem.

Honestly, I'm going to see my girlfriend tomorrow (without being drunk) and there's a chance that we might go for it again, so I just want any advice possible, if any....

Thanks...
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replied June 19th, 2007
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Yes, being drunk can cause erectile dysfunction for the night. That's probably more your problem than anything else.

Not masturbating can also build up sexual frustration that makes your body more eager to get it out and that desire may overcome your mental fears of failure.

masturbating once before bed isn't a bad amount anyway.
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replied June 19th, 2007
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It does not at all sound like masturbation is the issue. It sounds like being drunk, worrying about it, maybe being nervous, etc is the root of your problem. What you described is a common problem, and it's usually just due to stress, worrying, and being nervous. The more you think about it, the more of a problem it will be.
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replied June 19th, 2007
yeah, I mean, that's what I've mostly figured by now...

I mean, I just figured that being incredibly horny by next time that we start to fool around couldn't exactly hurt my cause, you know?
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replied June 19th, 2007
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crock_os wrote:
yeah, I mean, that's what I've mostly figured by now...

I mean, I just figured that being incredibly horny by next time that we start to fool around couldn't exactly hurt my cause, you know?


That's pretty much what I said Smile
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