I am a married , my husband likes to masturbate, which is normal, BUT, not with or in front of me. wants others to see him, I have caught him nude in front of an open window several times and outside at night. In my opinion this is not normal, I wanted to blame myself, as we have stopped a very healthy sexual relation for several years , he says due to back surgery afraid he will hurt me. Im not buying that, there are too many ways to satisfy other than the act its self, and he wont do any of it with me.
In the fact he is younger and my health has failed, is this normal???? Porn no longer good enough, he wants to be seen or likes the thought he might be seen seems to excite him. I also have caught him in porn sites with women and cams talking with and having sex as he masturbates, I know this can also be a not so healthy thing, terribly confused.
I am leaving him and going back home, my heart hurts too much, and Im angry at him. It took awhile to post this I hope someone has answers, he is also a dedicated alcoholic and pot user, we both were in our early marriage, I am no longer his buddy in these habits too many health probs. but seems other ways, I know he had a hard time reaching his 1st orgasm with me when we met and it took a few times, he did masturbate and could releive himself. No fault throwing here, just need answers....I would never let someone see me in those acts. That is private.