well i must say that one he should be happy that he's getting any
but maybe try twisting it up, maybe more foreplay or something sometimes the same old thing gets boring after a while, new positions or foreplay might help...
also with my boyfriend i love to tease him make him want YOU... thats always fun and he enjoys it too
don't be put down by what he said, i have noticed that some guys say things to make you do other things (reverse psychology) adding new things might spice it up a bit and maybe you both might enjoy it more!
(hope this helps )

Hah, I thought the same thing - maybe I can let him screw someone whose had kids - then he'll understand what tightness is.

But we never dive right into the sex - there's always making out and foreplay, and we do try different positions. I did buy some candy gel that I plan on using during our playtime...if I'm in the mood anyway. This was just a big shock to me - now I know how a man feels when a woman tells him he's small (which I may consider telling him just to bust his chops like he did to me).

If he wanted to spice things up, he went about it the wrong way. In any case, I think I'm going to abstain over my summer break - I really don't feel the desire for sex anymore.

Tell him if his penis was bigger, it wouldn't be an issue.

I'm sorry, I couldn't help myself.

[Edit: oh, sorry, I didn't see that you posted that in your reply.]

What does he mean by too loose??? It's gonna change size to fit around him, otherwise you'd be in an awful lot of pain.

Exactly. He should be proud that he gets you "loose," as he puts it. The vagina is kind of small and tight until a woman gets in the mood. Then it grows to two to three times it normal size and gets lubricated. That prevents the vagina from getting rips or tears in it.

I would be turned off too if my bf was telling my im loose like ive been sleeping around. but i sounds like it might be something you will have to get over. does he say he doesnt want sex with you? or does he still want it??? if he still wants sex with you then it sounds like something your going to have to conquer on your on, and not let bother you. which can be hard.

Like everyone else said, be honest about his penis size(!!!). Anyway, it's good that he was honest with you, but its unfortunate that he feels that way! It's going to happen to every girl when she has sex with the same partner over a long period of time! I remember when I was a virgin, my bf's penis HURT. One thing you can try to do is exercise your pc muscle...I'm not sure if that exactly helps or not because I haven't tried to do it over a long period of time, but I've read that it helps.

Most people think having sex will make a woman looser, but it's actually not the case. Having a baby can make the vagina looser, having sex won't. However, how tight or loose a woman feels can change daily depending on how in the mood she is and how lubricated she is. So if her boyfriend thinks she feels loose, that's kind of like a compliment to him!

Your boyfriend's penis probably hurt at first, not because you were any tighter, but because you were nervous or not lubricated enough. Not being lubricated enough is the most common cause of pain during sex.

Exactly, I think he must just have a small one and how would he know what is loose, and tight. He's only been with you right? He could have just been playing with you to see how you would react.

My boyfriend and i have only been with eachother, and he says sometimes im loose or tight.... But i know i can be "loose" even when we havent had sex in awhile just because i really really want him, and i cant get my hands off him... Other times i get caught off guard and im not fully ready and i'm " tight". I think when he says tight, there is more friction. When this happens he cant hold it as long because it feels tight and there is a lot of friction! When he says im loose, im always really ready for him and there isnt as much friction, but it still obviously feels incredible.
I hope this makes sense.... haha...

Btw, what are some of the excersises you can do to make the musles tighter???!!!??? I WANNA DO THESE EXCERSISES!!!!!

By the way, your man should be happy that he has someone to do it with, my boyfriend sometimes i feel like doesnst apprciate that he has me.... So, i play hard to get and i deny him... It drives him crazy in a good way, and it gets him amped and he accually then appreciates it.

PLAY HARD TO GET!!!!!

loose? i dont think he knows what he's talking about..like someone else said early, the vagina lubricates itself to prepare for sex and it adjusts to the size of his penis...maybe he's just gettin alil too much lovin lately and has just kinda gotten used to everything...maybe you should make him wait a few days and not do anything, you know..take a small break...see if he has any complaints in a few days haha

excercises you can do to tighten i think are called kegel excercises? you just squeeze like you're holding your pee then let loose then repeat...

When i said "loose" i mean lubricated and really ready to have sex

Just concentrate on yourself!

Start with something fun.

Gardening, music, dancing, sports, cooking, anything YOU like!

The, "Other half"; will figure out you don't give a rats ass.

CUZ.........Your just havin fun!

Wow. Why doesn't he tell you how he really feels?! Sheesh!

Anyway, I'm big on communication. Maybe you'd feel better telling him he hurt your feelings. Perhaps he thought he was being funny when he said it? Men can be like that sometimes.

I think you are referring to kegal exercises.

I don't think the vagina adjusts to the penis. My H has been with several other women before me and he said there is a diffident difference in the size of a women. I have heard that from more than one man too.. I guy I work with told me after his wife had a child there was a change.. But never the less, if a man loves you or even kind of likes you he should not say such a thing to hurt your feeling or make you feel inadequate. But I’m with Birch tell him maybe he need to grow a little more..

Every woman is a different size of course, but if the vagina didn't adjust to the penis, how do you think it adjusts to a baby's head!?

I meant from being large and going small to fit a penis.. not the other way around! afcourse it can strech larger for child bearing and larger men.

my question to you if you are both or were virgins then how would he know what loose is if he has never been with anyone else. Sounds to me like he may have some explaining to do. I know he said you were loose but did he say he did not like it? I think turning around and trying to hurt his feelings about the size of his penis is just asking for trouble. If you love eachother and you admire him for his honesty then tell him that the comment hurt you. I am sure he most likely did not mean it the way it came out. I have had 1 child naturally and the size of vigina has not change at all. But for some women it will change it. I have pain with sex and my doc told me that the vigin opens to accomidate the size of said mans penis but it will not shrink of the mans penis is smaller you are one size and thats it.