It does not sound like an infection. It sounds like he is just being too rough. The clitoris is pretty sensitive for most women, and rough, prolonged, or direct stimulation can be painful.

I dont like mine touched directly cus it hurts and I only touch mine with my "lips" closed and just the flat of my hand if you know what I mean?!

That's very normal, most women don't like it touched directly. It hurts for me too!!

and some people seem to think if they prod it alot I will come

Yeah, female orgasm is a bit more complicated than that XD

are you talkin bout that direct little bulb bit, i just rub the clit with the hood (skin bit) still covering it, is that normal, i still get a wikd orgasm fromt hat lol. also to the question, do you lube up? if not use lube!! i use spit. Is that safe to use spit with sex, thats what me and my bf use and i was wondering if spit is safe?

Yes, that's normal, that's what I do too. I don't use any lube because the way I masturbate doesn't cause any friction that I know of. I have been masturbating since I was 12 without lube, and orgasming. I don't think I need to use it now! Actually, I normally don't masturbate outside of a bathroom, so I don't need lube.

Yes spit is safe. I personally don't use it during sex (just oral of course) because I am naturally juicy and don't need it.

lol, no i dont use it to masturbate caz for me it doesnt caz friction either, it must have came out wrong how i sed it. sometimes when im in bed and my bf is asleep beside me i get horny and masterbate and he hasnt woken up yet, but i dont want to wake him for sex caz me masterbating myself and him having sex with me isnt the same feeling, they are both good but sometimes i just need a good old rub!!! lol, the best is when i wake up and my bf has already gone to work and im just so horny i caz just lay there and do what i like...lol, anyway, im glad its not harmful caz i think lube is a waste of money. we have used it before and its cold and assoon as air hits it it dryes up any way.

last night i told my bf what kind of sex llike. he is the romantic candles gental type and i told him i want him to dominate me, and he was like im not that kinda guy but im willing to try it. his boss is like his father figure and they are close like that so they tell each other everything, and his boss is one of those dominate guys, lol me and sam and sams boss jason and his wife tash are all close (they are only like 22/23 (not old seedy people) lol ew but sam hears bout all his sex and jason hears bout our sex, and if it bothered me i would say something but it doesnt and jason has already givin him tips (whichi is good) and sex we can borrow the handcuffs lol, so yeah me n sam are gunna start exploring, sam and jason have made it clear to me and tash that they want me and tash on each other and they watch, caz me n tash are both like that, but we just laugh it off kinda thing. sorry, i get all talky and cant stop.

Yeah, don't worry, completely natural, I've heard of this before from different women and it also may be the case that he's being too rough.

i wanted to say thanks to everyone the tips helped so much and my boyfriend and i really enjoy ourselves now