Problem Staying/getting Erect At Moment of Penetration ... Posted: 06-16-07 17:43pm
Ok, me and my girlfriend have attempted
sex twice. We've gotten down naked and
stuff, and I have have no problem getting
hard whenever we are just fooling around
and everything, but once I slip the condom
on, it goes downhill...
I go to put on the condom, and it gets on,
and thats when i start to lose my
erection. we try to go for penetration,
but I end up there with just a half-limp
dick, and it's not enough for me to
penetrate her with.
Now, this is something that just honestly,
destroys a guy mentally and physically to
some extent. I just want to get an idea
of what i might wanna do, cuz we really
want to have sex, and this is the girl for
it. We both love each other and every
time it happens, I feel like I've let her
down. She reassures me and eveything, but
I just feel like a let down, you know?
Anyway, what should I do for that next
time?
and also, for the record, both times, we
had been drinking and i know that might
play a part in this problem of mine...
but do you think that is the main problem?
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Mangucho
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2007 Posts: 26
Posted: 06-17-07 06:41am
hey crock.
I have been going trough this problem as
well. And it still shows up sometimes, but
first 3 times were just awful. On that
moment, i really killed my libido. From my
personal expereince, for me and probably
for you, its the stress and anxiety. I
know how ya feel menthally, same was here,
my gf said to me, that its all ok, and she
isnt angry, she said if it happens again,
its ok, no worries. And after the time
when she said that, my fear went away, and
wollaaaahhhh it was hard and no problems
at all. THe thing is dont think about
"keeping the errection", or if you will be
afraid from losing errection on next time,
you will go soft again, The key is dont
think about. Just relax, oh and maybe this
helps, when you are putting the condom on,
just like let your gf play with your balls
and arround the penis area. Maybe that
helps. Well anyways, champ, just relax,
and dont think about it, then its gonna be
good, as sooner you will calm down, the
sooner, you will be able to perform as you
should do. Best luck to ya buddy, thumbs
up !
Regards, Mangucho
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anonymous81
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Joined: 04 Feb 2007 Posts: 12
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Posted: 06-17-07 07:51am
Hey mate
Had the same problem too... Actually
lasted nearly a month for me... It was a
nightmare, I lost my libido, it drove my
gf crazy and I was really getting
depressed. Not to mention her, who thought
the problem was with her...
I really don't know what changed after a
month... The problem just disappeared. In
my case I used to look at porn when
masturbating, so I thought that could be a
reason for my problem so I completely
stopped looking at that crap. I reduced
masturbation a lot (yeah I needed the
relief as I simply couldn't get a proper
erection with my gf...)
And then I don't know, it just happened...
That was 5 months ago. We've been having
sex at least twice a day every day since
then... So it's all psychological, it's
all in your head... I just wish I could
give you a solution but I can't. I can't
even explain what happened to me. I didn't
feel nervous, I am not shy... Absolutely
no idea about what was wrong...
You just need to keep trying... And don't
forget, there are plenty of things you can
do to your girl besides actual intercourse
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crock_os
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Jun 2007 Posts: 12
Posted: 06-17-07 09:06am
gotcha, i mean, I'm not that worried about
it...
I figured it was more of a psychological
thing and the more I freak out about it,
the more it's gonna keep happening and
haunting me, so, yeah, I'ma take your
advice guys, thanks alot...
