So I am in a very serious relationship with my boyfriend, we have already started planning out what we want to do in our lives together. We plan on getting married in just a year or so, and then are considering children a few years after that, given we have the money for it! Thing is, my mom has been constantly yelling at me to not even THINK about getting married anytime soon ( im twenty one right now, been with my boyfriend since i was 19, plan on marrying in 1-3 years etc) and she really doesnt want me to have kids until im like 35. Ok, thats fine and dandy she thinks that way, but i really love my guy, and Id really like to have a child in the next 5 years or so. Personally, I think it would be better for me to have one at a younger age! Not to mention my future mother in law(who is a mother of only one child!) is DYING to have grandchildren lol. Thing is... i feel almost dirty for wanting to have a child before my mom wants me to. Id still feel like i was like a pregnant teen or something . I feel like she wont be happy at all. I feel like she'll be so disappointed in me.. but this is what Im really hoping for! what should I do? How should I confront her about this when the time comes?