Welcome freetoBme:
Good on ya for getting out of the abusive relationship.
I got out of my very abusive relationship 14 years ago, well 12 really coz I put up with him abusing me for a further 2 years till I met the man I am with today. (read my sticky).
Even now I am still affected by that relationship but it has however made me a stronger person.
I hope you didn't suffer too much & got out before any lasting affect took hold. As you only recently started this thread I am guessing that you are still affected, however it is early days, you got the world ahead of you.
Enjoy your son & someone special will come along.
All the best & feel free to PM or post on here, let us know how you are going!

Thanks dynamicdebz! I am doing ok considering the circumstances. My son and I are staying with my parents and they support me 100%. I am in abuse counselling and unfortunately in a really messy custody battle. My husband (soon to be ex) is still trying to abuse me but I finally put a stop to that and the only way he can contact me now is through my lawyer. I will admit that it feels like I am never going to meet Mr. Right and that there is no one else out there for me. I keep thinking that when and if I finally do decide to date again that I will start comparing those men to my husband.

You know freetoBme just carry on doing what you are doing you seem to have your head screwed on right.
Don't look for a new relationship it will find you when the time is right. You have a lot going on at the moment so maybe a relationship would just get in the way.
You won't compare any one man to the old one but you will be more aware, perhaps too aware which isn't such a bad thing. You want & deserve Mr Perfect after what you've put up with and you know you will find him coz he's gonna have to work extra hard to win your affection.
But at least it saves all the time of finding out months down the line that he's no good!
Keep up the fighting, it will come to an end soon and you have your family to help.
Good luck.

hi sweetie! It's nice to meet you! I'm proud of you for taking that step away from him and being able to see things for what they were.there are lots of women who sadly are not that strong so you should be very proud of you.I know you must feel great to have your freedom back now,I know I did.I was in an abusive relationship a while back and ended up getting out.I cried for a good while and then met someone new and found out life goes on.(me and the new guy never worked out but I had fun afer that beign myself and having my freedom!) these are a great bunch of people here so feel free to talk whenever about whatever! Welcome!

I have just had the strength to press charges on my husband who has been abusing me for the past 4 years, mentally and physically, we have a three year old son, we only got married two months ago and a week later he was back to his old tricks (i only got married on the broken promise that he would change - which was a short lived change up until the wedding) he is on bail and cannot contact me now, he has pleaded guilty and his case for sentencing is end of feb!!

I feel compeltely happy for the first time in four years and the change in my son is phenominal!! he wrote to me once since this happened two weeks ago, promising me and my son the world, i have learned that this is only for himself and the realisation of what he has done. Anyway,,, move on move up girls is what i say, my first night out tomorro with my friends for four years! I have had my highs and lows, this week very low, blaming myself etc and this is what we are programmed to believe - far from the truth i may add!!

Have a lovely weekend everyone and to those who have found the strength to do the right thing and get back to their old selves - well done and those who haven't just remember who you were and who you want to be - every day gets easier I promise you!!

Hi freetoBme, glad you got out of your relationship they are not healthy for anyone
Jenny