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Q: Bipolar Disorder
asked by: gary1958 on June 15th, 2007
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I met a lady 2 1/2 yrs ago. Blew into my life like a hurricane.. Took it over...From the very beginning I noticed things were odd...Over the top emotionally...Every comment was like a knife to the heart... The yelling .. The running out in a panic....The constant validtation required....Wasnt till a year later that she passed a flipant comment the she panic/anxiety disorder.. The drugs were in her glove box cause she didnt want to be a drugged up zombie.. Once I new the cause and the fact she was doing nothing to manage it... I got angry and started calling her on her antics.. Needless to say that it was slow burn for the next year... She finally called it quits and told me to move on about 3 months ago.. I was devastated as I loved her deeply and wanted to support her if she would get help.. She didnt want to .. But we managed to go to a counsellor a few times.. I went back to the counsellor after the break up as I was devestated and was put on meds... The counsellor believed from my stories and meeting this women a few times that she was actually bi-polar and not panic/anxiety.. Never the less it took a few months of counselling for her to convince me that I had in fact done nothing wrong.. That all feelings in a bi-polar persons life are severely amplified and that normal things get to them much more.. Also.. A person as needy as her would never find anyone to fill her needs that she needs to fill them from the inside.. It has been 3 months and I am in a much better place althou still angry that she knew she had this affliction but wasnt up front and honest with me.. I believe the relationship could have been much different if she had been ... Anybody experience a situation similar.. Would love to know
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adnor
replied on June 15th, 2007
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Gary,
You put that very eloquently. You explained the actions of a bipolar person to a “T”. Well at least compared to my situation you did. It’s been 2 years since my breakup to my bipolar ex fiancée. Same experience. I too thought I was to blame for the relationship and spent 2 years in therapy to learn otherwise. You did the right thing by continuing to go to therapy. The saddest thing about this illness is that some bipolar people (like in our case) don’t do everything they can to get help. Like you I was deeply in love with my ex and was also put on medication for depression. It’s been a long road but I too am in a much better place.
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adnor
replied on June 15th, 2007
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If this is any comfort to you, the hardest part of letting him go was understanding that I couldn’t help him. Reading forums and books on bipolar disorder helped. I’ve let go of the anger now and realize there is nothing for me to be angry about. He is the way he is, and I am the way I am.
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