Surrogate Mother

i think it takes a very strong and selfless woman to do that. it's a wonderful gift to give a couple.

i know i couldn't do it though. i couldn't carry a baby for 9 months without growing completely attached and wanting to keep it and raise it as my own.

why do you ask?

I've just really been thinking about it lately. I realize that .I'm so lucky to have .Kaylee & it's so sad for couples who can't get pregnant.. & being that I can, I think someday .I'd like to give the gift of a baby to someone.. I don't know much about it, or anything really.. So .I'd have to do some major studying but I just can't stop thinking about it.

i think it'd be wonderful and i hope to be able to do that for one of my best friends one day.

i always wanted to do it. but my kids are on medicaid and you cant have it from what i read cant get any kind of assistance

i think the people that you're having the baby for are supposed to pay for your doctors visits and maternity clothes, ect.

I have looked into it as well. Most agencies prefer you to have your own insurance; a lot of insurance companies do cover it. You usually don't have to pay any out of pocket money as that is the bio-parents responsibility. If you don't have insurance, the chances of you becoming a surrogant parent is less but probably not impossible. Everything is covered and you get compensated. There are two types of surrogancy: Gestational and Traditional. Gestational is in know way related to you whereas Traditional is the mans sperm and your egg...at least that is my understanding. I would only consider gestational. I wouldn't be strong enough to give up a child that is part biologically me. I don't understand how some woman can do it. Gestational babies are not at all related.

I have strongly considered it but I don't know if I am eligible anymore due to this at risk pregnancy. Also, I am not a happy pregnant woman as I am pretty hormonal!

There are a few really good forums out there. Ironically, I was just looking at one about six hours ago. It was very informational. PM me if you can't locate it and I will find it for you.

Good luck. I think it's such a great thing to do.

i posted about this a while back as I applied to be a surrogate mother but decided to wait a bit. i will be a gestantional (not my egg) surrogate one day but I have to wait until my sciatica lessons a bit

I think it's a wonderful gift and If someone really important to me asked, I would .maybe do it. I'm not sure. I loved trey the minute I knew he was in my belly so I'm not too sure.

I had a friend who says she was a surrogate cause when I met her she had just had a baby, but I found out she was never a surrogate, she had just abandoned her 2 kids. Nice eh??

I think I would do it for my sisters, cousins, or best friend if it were a gestational surrogacy, with no relation to me. I'm pretty confident .I could carry someone else's baby without getting too attached.

I thought about doing it for my gay friend and his sig. other, but after the last pregnancy I had, I will never be pregnant again. I would, though, if I hadn't been so wrecked before. It would have to be gestational, though, so don't ask me where he was planning to get an egg from!

I really enjoyed the idea of being a surrogate mother before having .Alyvia. I wanted to give someone the gift of a child so badly, and also wanted to be pregnant.

But now that .I've had .Alyvia, .I've discovered how much I dislike being pregnant. It's just not for me. I'm not even looking forward to being pregnant with our second child... it's just a means to an end for me. (that sounds so mean )

I would absulutly love to be a surrogate, it's just such a selfless and amazing think to do for a couple who want a child so much. i don't know if i could do it though, i would only want to carry a child who's not biologically tied to me or i really couldn't give them to the couple

Hey ladies! Being a surrogate sounds like a wonderful idea. To be able to give someone such an amazing gift would be awesome. But I know that I could never do it. I have already been an egg donor for my aunt and for me it has been an emotional roller coaster. When she was pregnant it was okay but once the baby was born it got harder. It was hard to see a baby who looked just like my daughter, then it was hard not to think every time I look at the baby that she was really biologically mine. Not only that you have to think about the process as a whole, like all the monitoring, fertility drugs, needles that you have to give yourself everyday, your emotions all out of whack, plus here in Canada they do not put you to sleep when they do the egg retrieval so for me it was really painful when they took the eggs from my left ovary because my left one is exceptionally higher than the right.

Well anyways I could go on forever about these topics but I won't bore you
My point was that being an egg donor was hard for me and I didn't even bond with that baby like my aunt did. I could not imagine caring the baby for nine months then having to give her up even if it wasn't my egg.

And please don't get me wrong I am happy that I gave my aunt such a wonderful gift and I don't regret it but it was a lot harder then I thought it would be. Especially when you have to sign the paper that terminates any parental rights, that was when it became reality for me.

That would be so difficult!! Especially when you see the baby/child a lot! You have a wonderful heart.

sooo what is the difference between being a surrogate mother and adoption? I'm adopted, my mom owns an adoption agency, and i never heard of that term before.

Awwwww you read my mind.
I am only 18 but I have really been looking into it.
I love being pregnant and the experience of everything and I have been pretty voiced on not being ready to have another one of my own but I would love to help others out.
We can let people borrow everything else. . why not our ovaries and tummy for 9 months. LOL
I think it's a great idea, especially if you find a family that lets you stay involved. . . <3
Even if not it's just the fact of knowing you helped bring a life into this world when someone else couldn't