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Q: Orgasm Help

asked by: whbrunette on June 13th, 2007

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Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about a month now and about the second week after we got done we were in bed talking and he asked if he could ask me a question and i woulden't get mad, he asked me if I had ever had a orgasm and I told him I wasn't sure and he said I would know. Well we came to the conclussion that I haden't so a couple days later he started doing different thing to try to get me to. And for the past two weeks we have tried so many things from oral sex to using vibraters and its fun, but I never have a orgasm, he said my clitoris might be to small or something, what should I do?

Last edited by whbrunette on June 13th, 2007 01:52 PM; edited 3 times in total

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Tylanas

replied on June 13th, 2007

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Orgasms in the female have nothing to do with penis size.

DO you masturbate? If not, I'd suggest that you do a little, so you can find out what makes you feel good. The important part is to stimulate your clitoris. That's what most women orgasm from... and not vaginal sex! Vaginal sex feels nice and all, but the majority of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.

Also, don't be discouraged if it takes a long time (we're talking... 20 minutes) to come to orgasm.

Llewellyn

replied on June 13th, 2007

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Eiri is right; it has nothing to do with size since the majority of women do not orgasm from vaginal stimulation anyway. We don't have as many sensitive nerve endings far into our vagina either.

You'll have to explore and tell him what feels good and what does not. Try masturbation and oral sex. Most women find those two to be the easiest to orgasm from.

fiona05

replied on June 13th, 2007

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if he is stimulating your clitoris with his fingers, lubricant might help because it keeps things nice and slippery - friction on the clitoris isn't nice!

i would suggest that you are probably more likely to orgasm by yourself first. if you don't find it easy or indeed possible to do it manually then maybe you could find a vibrator.

so sad

replied on June 13th, 2007

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Please Help :(

I have not had an orgasm with my husband since we have been together... 3 years now. In college, I was able to orgasm, even multiple times, by always being on top with my legs completely behind me staddling my partner. I would control the motion and use my arms to hold my self up to do the motioning. My husband says that hurts him.
I have no clue how to get an orgasm now, as that is the only way with a partner, or vibrator, I am able to do so. We use plenty of lubrication.
Any suggestions? I am desperate, and now I am starting to feel resentment for sex altogether.

Tylanas

replied on June 13th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

Re: Please Help :(

so sad wrote:

Well, is there any way to mimic that position in other ways?

The issue is stimulating your clitoris (normally) so why don't you manually stimulate it with your fingers during sex?

so sad

replied on June 14th, 2007

New User

any suggestions on positions? we have tried a lot that don't work. any one else out there that gets orgasms this way?

Tylanas

replied on June 14th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

I'd suggest the same thing to you: stimulate your clitoris manually with your fingers during sex.

nikoleM

replied on June 15th, 2007

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i have a question???? okay me and my partner have sex for like and hour to like an hour in a half...and i still can not climax???? what the hell am i doing wrong?? also i have been exploring my body..and i have been using a vibrater like in the shower and i'm getting closer to having a clitoral orgasm!!! i like it!!! also this might sound stupid but what is friction when having sex????

Tylanas

replied on June 15th, 2007

Especially eHealthy

nikoleM wrote:

Okay, vaginal penetration honestly has nothing to do with female orgasm, unless you're one of the few who only orgasm vaginally, and it seems unlikely that you are.

You are not necessarily doing anything wrong, but you might not be doing enough. You will probably always have to stimulate your clitoris during sex in order to orgasm.

It's good that you're getting closer to orgasm! Go for it; relax. I've found that it is very hard to orgasm while standing, so make sure you're laying in the tub and nice and relaxed.

Friction is what happens when two objects rub against each other. During sex, clearly, the penis and the vagina rub against each other. This friction during sex is normally pleasurable.

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