Help! Inlaws Giving Stress Or Am I Taking It Too Seriously?? Posted: 06-13-07 04:47am
hi!
my situation is a bit complex and
might seem hard to understand but the
thing is that i had an arranged marriage
and currently we are living in a combined
family system (with inlaws). i love my
husband and vice versa, but lately i have
been completely stressed out since i got a
yeast infection. i am susceptible to them
and spent a year and a half with it, so
the thought of the whole cycle starting
all over again is depressing me. on top of
that, my mother and father in law are
giving me a hard time over the supervision
of our servant. u see, if even the
smallest task is left undone or the
tiniest detail overlooked by him, they
point it out to me and berate me in a
critical manner. i have a very short
temper and especially nowadays my fuse is
really short. it is hard for me to keep
from giving them a piece of my mind but i
manage it somehow for my husband's sake.i
dont want to confront them over this as
they tend to take offense quite easily but
i dont want this sort of behaviour to
continue either. my elf confidence in my
housekeeping is nil now because of this.
my husband understands but implores me to
bear this a little while longer saying we
will get posted out of here soon. but i
feel that running away from confrontation
is not the solution and they need to stop
this behaviour. what should i do?
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Jaydensmommy
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 28 Jan 2004 Posts: 1770 Location: , USA
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Posted: 06-13-07 19:42pm
Is it possible to talk to the inlaws about
how they are making you feel? I mean I
guess this depends on the country also, in
some countries it would be unheard of to
confront inlaws, etc. But I do believe
your best bet is to tell them how you
feel and let them know that you are having
some stress of your own and them putting
more on you is really affecting you. Or
maybe your husband could mention something
to his parents about how they are treating
you and making you feel. This may be
easier for him than yourself seeing since
they are his parents.
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jar412
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Jun 2007 Posts: 8 Location: South Carolina
Oh I Feel Ya Posted: 06-25-07 18:57pm
I have terrible in laws... They hate me
and would do anything to get rid of me..
but my hubby and i love each other too
much. I am sorry If youneed to talk I am
here
