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Q: All Moms .. Please Read

asked by: taciturn on June 12th, 2007

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I am on the verge of getting engaged to the man I am currently seeing, which makes me happy.. yet very afraid. His mother is DESPERATE for grandchildren. She pushes the topic nearly EVERY time I see her. I am beginning to feel so much pressure from this... I even told my boyfriend that I might not even want children... and he said that his mother would be VERY upset if I chose not to have any. He is an only child, and would be her sole opportunity for any grandchildren. So i have been doing research, and have watched countless births on video etc... but the more I am doing this, the more frightened I am getting. If i have a child, i want it to be because I choose to for myself, not for her. But I feel like at some point in my life I will be obligated to do it. I am just so scared of it all... it looks and sounds like it is so painful-I do NOT do well with pain, needles, or doctors in general and I am EXTREMELY squeamish. So tell me all you moms out there... is this all really worth it? I am practically crying while writing this I am so gosh darn scared of it! I really dont know if I could ever do it myself...

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sillyakchick

replied on June 12th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Well, a woman should never have children for any other reason than because she wats to. Having children under pressure can only set the stage for resntments and all kinds of issues later on. Are children worth the physical pain of labor? Absolutely. Not all labors are painful, and I would discourage any woman, pregnant or not, from viewing too many "birth videos". Birth is a wonderful, frightening, magnificent, terrifying experince like no other in the world. But your mind is kind in that it erases much of the painful memories. I had one very painful terrifying labor and one which was completely painless. But I think way too much emphasis is placed on labor and nobody talks enough about adjusting to life with children, which I can tell you is much more frightening than birth.

Idony

replied on June 12th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

for me, it was absolutly worth it

but the simple fact is, if you dont want kids then it is deffinently *not* worth it, there is nothing in the world that could make it worth it if you dont really want it

dont feel pressured or obligted, its your body dont let someone else run it

~alicia~

taciturn

replied on June 12th, 2007

New User

Well. I think I do want children-one day, when i think IM ready-not when my future mother in law thinks i should. I am just so frightened of all the pain and suffering... it sounds and looks absolutely DREADFUL to me... i honestly dont know how i would react! Sad

annesian

replied on June 13th, 2007

New User

What pain and suffering are you refering to? If you mean labour, then I have some good news for you. Mine was absolutely painless. The delivery itself - absolutely painless. I got an epidural after they broke my water and I thought initially it was because of that, but they announced they cut off the eipudral an hour prior me delivering and still - painless. Kids are wonderful, but make sure you are ready. Do everything you want to do in your life and then consider having children. It will make it worthwhile when you feel ready. And no one should tell you if you should or should not have kids - even your partner. Choose for yourself and you'll be glad you did. Anne

*Ashley*

replied on June 22nd, 2007

New User

Precious Gifts From God

It was worth it for me. I am very sensitive too. Whenever i even look at blood i just get weak in the knees. Yes it hurts but always remember that the lord will never put too much on you that he thinks u can't handle. It's painful for some women and not for some. I am 125 ibs and i had my first child at 20 years old. He was 8 lbs. It hurted like hell but i thought about my son while i was in pain. knowing i was doing it for him. I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. and u know what, once it was over with i thought about it and said "that was'nt bad". but it was. Now i am happily to say that i am now 2 months pregnant again with second child. It's worth it for you children

Assena

replied on June 22nd, 2007

Experienced User

if it was really that terriable do you think the plantet would be as populated as it is?

annesian

replied on June 22nd, 2007

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