You had to ask him if you could buy an outfit...Skrew him

Oh my gosh! My guy is also obsessed with cars & rims! You cannot get blokes away from this stuff!
I think its out of order that he spends so much & you cant have a new outfit.If you work for your money then medical question him-you spend it.Why should he get something new & you cant.
Dont stand for it huni
liz x

Thx guys, the money we spent was our tax return. I just dont know what to do, as soon as we got home he left. I hurt and I dont know what I should do. I love him. You know what he said to me he said once I lose weight then I might be able to get an outfit.

Can you say..Controlling....You have every right to buy a new outfit...You need it more than some stupid car crap.

The cheek of him! How could he say that you need to loose weight first-that is so cruel.Guys are so obssessed with cars! Argh! Dont let him treat you like that-you're entitled to spend money on yourself too

I, personally, wouldnt take that from a guy. Hun, he has no right telling you what you can and cannot buy. Hes a hypocrite(sp?). If you cant buy something for yourself then he shouldnt be allowed to..Atleast what you wanted didnt cost as much as what he bought..Ugh! I hate men like that. I dont know what you should do..And I wont tell you what to do. Its all up to you and how you feel about him. Best of luck
shannon

All I can say is there are 3 types of abuse: physical, emotional and finantal
hmmmmmmmmm is he controlling you honey???? Using your weight against you, not letting you spend.... Maybe you need to re-evaluate what is important to you, your happiness, or his....... Write a list..... See whats good and bad about the relationship..... Then make a decision that will make you happy in the long run..... Its too easy to say leave him.... I wont.... Just decide if thats how you want to live....... Ill tell you though the last person I asked if I could buy something I needed was my dad, when I was like 12, if he doesn't have to ask you to spend the money, why should you have to ask him, it belongs to both of u doesnt it???/

Wow. Sweetie, I am in no position to give out relationship advice, but, in my opinion you and him need to have a very long and serious talk. Posession like this, that he has over you, only tends to escelate! You need to draw some boundaries and soon! If you love him, and he loves you, ya'll can make it work. But somethings got to give. And you have done nothing wrong so he's the one who's gotta give!
Love,
chanda