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Q: I've Been Faking It! What Should I Do Now?
asked by: enoman1 on June 12th, 2007
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i am 28 years old and have been married now for 3 1/2 years. i love my husband, he is really sexy and feel desire for him.but even when we first got married (arranged), i did not climax while having sex with him. let me clarify. i have the hots for him, i feel the need to make love with him, but i come rather infrequently. say once in a month or even two months. the rest of the time, i just fake it. it makes me feel terrible, but i dont know what to do. i fake it because i feel that lack of climax on my part would hurt his pride and our sex life would nose dive. should i tell him this or not. besides i think he knows anyway. Sad
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Tylanas
replied on June 12th, 2007
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What you can do instead is to begin doing things during sex that will make you orgasm. Your man would much prefer you do than don't. DO you orgasm when you masturbate? What works when you're alone? Bring those things into your sex life. Change is good!
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Llewellyn
replied on June 12th, 2007
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I would be honest about it. I do not think it is healthy to lie about that sort of thing in a relationship. Women don't usually orgasm as easily and as often as men. That's nothing to be ashamed of.

Also, if you lie about what brings you to orgasm, your partner will never learn what really does work for you.
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enoman1
replied on June 12th, 2007
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I Know!
Eiri wrote:
What you can do instead is to begin doing things during sex that will make you orgasm. Your man would much prefer you do than don't. DO you orgasm when you masturbate? What works when you're alone? Bring those things into your sex life. Change is good!


i know tat we need to have more sexual openness between the two of us. i thought things were fine and due to the decline in our sexual activities, i was worried that he wasnt findinmg me desirable anymore. then i found out that he was frequenting adult chatting sites where he had profiles and also displayed photos of himself without his shirt on. when i asked him why he did it, he said he needed to explore his sexuality. Confused
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Tylanas
replied on June 12th, 2007
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Re: I Know!
enoman1 wrote:
Eiri wrote:
What you can do instead is to begin doing things during sex that will make you orgasm. Your man would much prefer you do than don't. DO you orgasm when you masturbate? What works when you're alone? Bring those things into your sex life. Change is good!


i know tat we need to have more sexual openness between the two of us. i thought things were fine and due to the decline in our sexual activities, i was worried that he wasnt findinmg me desirable anymore. then i found out that he was frequenting adult chatting sites where he had profiles and also displayed photos of himself without his shirt on. when i asked him why he did it, he said he needed to explore his sexuality. Confused


Kick him out onto the couch for a night. If he needs to explore his sexuality, he needs to do it with you, or officially go back out into the world on his own (without you) to "explore" his sexuality; doing it behind your back is totally inappropriate. That's a doorway to cheating. Either he remains happy with you, or he needs to start a new life without you. None of this "in-between" crap. You'll end up the one hurt, and he won't be.
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