Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 2 Location: Tobyhanna,Pa18466
I Need Help Im 13 And Want a Baby ! Posted: 06-11-07 22:41pm
m 13
and very lonely i dont have a mom and my
dad and sister's are mostly gone and when
i see my friend taking care of her baby it
makes me sad i know i want a baby but im
afraid about sex cause im a virgin and
about how whould my dad take it if i do
become pregnant cause he always said if me
or my older sister gets pregnant then he
whould kick us out and i know i can take
care of it cause ever since i was 7 i've
been taking care of my baby sister plez
respond i really need someone to talk
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HcoBrunette06
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Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Posts: 8005 Location: Missouri, United States
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Posted: 06-11-07 22:46pm
hey, you already posted this in the other
forum and you got responses that you
didn't agree with.
honey you are 13 years old, it's perfectly
normal for you to want a child but please
do not act on those feelings.
think about it this way...
how are you going to buy it formula and
diapers and toys and clothes? let me
guess, your parents will help you? no,
they might help you but that's being
selfish, this is your choice and if you
choose to have a baby they should not have
to provide everything for it. if they
wanted another baby then they would have
one.
i'm guessing you don't have a car, you
don't have a job, you don't have a place
of your own or your high school diploma,
why don't you think about those things
first? i know what it feels like to want a
baby, i've had those feelings since i
started my period, it's hormonal and i bet
you 90% of the girls here have gone
through it. just don't act on those
feelings.
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Leah36
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 May 2007 Posts: 7 Location: Montana
Posted: 06-18-07 12:30pm
Oh boy hunny, have I been there. I wanted
a baby since I was a little girl. It's
embarassing to admit, but when I was
little, I used to pretend to nurse my baby
dolls. I've wanted a baby since I WAS a
baby myself. When I started my period, I
began having sex to try to get pregnant. I
was 13, the age you are now. I got
pregnant when I was 14, but I lost the
baby after only 10 weeks. Now I'm 16, over
halfway through my pregnancy and I don't
want to say I regret it, but I do want to
say that it isn't what I had hoped for. DO
you have any idea how hard it really is to
be pregnant? morning sickness, weird
movements inside you, it's hard to breathe
sometimes... not to mention the ridicule
and name-calling. I've been called more
things than I care to discuss on the
internet. also, think of everything you
have to give up. I used to be on the
varsity basketball team. I used to be a
swimmer. I used to dance. I can't do that
now with my big pregnant belly, and I
personally try to be extra careful because
I already lost one baby. I'm starting to
get really nervous about the birth and
raising of my baby. Being pregnant really
made me realize how hard it is, especially
going it alone. As was already mentioned,
I thought my parents would help me, but
when I got pregnant, my parents agreed to
leave me to my own ways to support myself
and my child. Any expenses they pay, I
have to agree to pay back. Basically, this
is a very adult decision that I made in a
very childish time of my life. I urge you
to wait. Please. Wait. You're going to be
so much happier if you wait until you are
older, in a stable relationship, and have
the right environment to raise a child in.
Sorry this was so long, but I think it's
something you should really be careful
about. feel free to contact me if you need
additional help, okay? Please be safe.
Leah
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mum2bubba
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Joined: 29 Oct 2005 Posts: 256 Location: Australia
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Posted: 06-19-07 09:06am
Please wait another 10 years, your'e only
a child yourself you wouldn't be able to
take care of a baby, babies are not little
dolls that you can just dress up and all
that, they cost lots of money which I'm
guessing you don't have since you're too
young to get a job, babies are cute but
they ar also hard work.
I am 24 and have 2 kids (2 and a half and
6 weeks) you know what I am doing right
now in the middle of the night (apart from
browsing the net)? I am up feeding my 6
week old baby, I haven't slept in weeks
and I'm exhausted, I'm not saying that
babies are all bad but I am saying that
its very hard work even for someone my age
abd older.
So please, please, please wait a little
while, stay in school and later down the
track when you're a bit older and more
mature THEN think about having a baby.
Hope I wasn't too mean, if I was the I
apologise.
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ANGELOS MAMA
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jul 2006 Posts: 1128 Location: , San Diego,California
Posted: 06-21-07 15:35pm
you wanna be a 13 year old carrying a baby
at the mall? im 17 with a 1 year old.and
you know what? its harder than you think.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 06-21-07 21:56pm
hey im 16 and am 4 months pregnant
not that babies arnt
wonderful...but...wiat
it is a hard thig to deal with
and a 13 year old is not ready. youre not
ready when yuor 16...20 or even 30
think about it
just because youre lonely doesnt meen a
baby will help.
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alycoolkeddx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 27 Location: America
Posted: 06-23-07 23:20pm
Omann im 14 and my brothers girlfriend who
is deff. like a sister to me , has a baby
with my brother and he is two years old
and is at my house all the time. Ill be
online talking to my friends and here he
comes busting my door open and screaming
at me to play hockey with him. Hes nuts
and i looove him and he is like my little
buddy. COnsidering he goes home with his
parents at the end of the day.lol. You
dont want kids , your only a kid yourself
as of me i plan to stay one as long as i
can and do things kids do. people these
days ry to grow up to fast !
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 06-24-07 14:09pm
alycoolkeddx
wrote:
Omann im 14 and my brothers
girlfriend who is deff. like a sister to
me , has a baby with my brother and he is
two years old and is at my house all the
time. Ill be online talking to my friends
and here he comes busting my door open and
screaming at me to play hockey with him.
Hes nuts and i looove him and he is like
my little buddy. COnsidering he goes home
with his parents at the end of the
day.lol. You dont want kids , your only a
kid yourself as of me i plan to stay one
as long as i can and do things kids do.
people these days ry to grow up to fast !
ha! that sounds like a 2 year old
i agree with you though
she is still a kid herself and needs to be
a kid
im only 16
15 weeks as of friday
and i left school
freinds
family
everything
13 is too young...but then again i dont
ever think anyone is READY for a child...
but still you shouldnt force it...let it
happen on its own and dont do anything
stupid that you might regret
kids are forever
lonliness is not
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Bridget
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Posted: 06-24-07 18:59pm
can you imagine being 23 with a 10-year
old?
that's just wrong.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 06-24-07 19:01pm
IHeartMyBostonTerrier
wrote:
can you imagine being 23
with a 10-year old?
that's just
wrong.
yeah when you think about it that way...it
sounds even worse
can a 13 yr olds body even handle a baby?
do you know what risks your child would
have to be born wit birth defects or
retardation?
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Dannzibelle
Supporter
Joined: 23 Oct 2006 Posts: 3775 Location: South East, England
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Posted: 06-25-07 01:46am
the_girlfreind
wrote:
IHeartMyBostonTerrier
wrote:
can you imagine being 23
with a 10-year old?
that's just
wrong.
yeah when you think about it that way...it
sounds even worse
can a 13 yr olds body even handle a baby?
do you know what risks your child would
have to be born wit birth defects or
retardation?
The exact same risks as your age actually
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 06-25-07 11:21am
Dannzibelle
wrote:
the_girlfreind
wrote:
IHeartMyBostonTerrier
wrote:
can you imagine being 23
with a 10-year old?
that's just
wrong.
yeah when you think about it that way...it
sounds even worse
can a 13 yr olds body even handle a baby?
do you know what risks your child would
have to be born wit birth defects or
retardation?
The exact same risks as your age
actually
actually your "insides" arnt even matured
yet at 13 or 14
the tissue lining in the uterus is very
weak and cant support the futus
its not a good idea at 16 either but still
13 is wayyyy worse and even riskier
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HcoBrunette06
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Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Posts: 8005 Location: Missouri, United States
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Posted: 06-25-07 12:40pm
yeah, but stuff happens *shrug*
a 13 year old can carry a baby to term
though.
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Dannzibelle
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Joined: 23 Oct 2006 Posts: 3775 Location: South East, England
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Posted: 06-25-07 13:11pm
HcoBrunette06
wrote:
yeah, but stuff happens
*shrug*
a 13 year old can carry a baby to term
though.
Exactly, that was my point, a 13 year can
have a perfectly healthy pregnancy with no
complications whatsoever, the risks are
only ever so slightly higher than someone
of say 20and the risks are lower than that
of someone in their 30's
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 06-25-07 14:25pm
oh yeah i know that i have a 13 yr old
friend who got pregnant...she was 14 when
she had the kid though...eh...not much of
a differnce.
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nvrgv^
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jun 2007 Posts: 20 Location: Duval County, FL USA
Closer to You Posted: 06-26-07 02:59am
I know you don't know me, but I am more
like you than you might ever believe. I'm
fourteen years old, and two years ago, I
wanted a baby really abd too. I was so
lonely, and it felt like no one ever
relaly wanted to love me or be around me.
I'm the 8th child of 10, and so I never
got much attention, if any. Arund the time
I turned thirteen, two of my brothers were
in jail, two of my sister's were pregnant
(one for the second time), and my sister
and mom were in a hospital. I haven't sene
my dad since I was eight, and my step-dad
is int he anvy and so I never see him.
I was so lonely that I became sexually
active and tried so hard to get pregnant.
Three weeks before my fourteenth birthday,
I finally got my wish, I was going to have
a baby. But the guy who was the father,
said he didn't want the baby and bailed
when I said Iw as keeping it. I was sure I
could take care of it myself, that I was
old enough because I'd been taking care of
myself forever, and I took care of my
neices all the time.
But, when my parents found out, they
kicked me out, and I had nowhere to go,
not even a shelter. My sister took me in
for a little while, and after I ahd my
baby, my lonliness didn't go away. It just
got deeper. My daughter McKayla gets on my
nerves all the time. And I can no longer
go to the bathroom by myself, let alone
have a few mintues to breathe. I actually
feel more lonely now because I don't have
anyone my age or of older intelligence to
tlak to. I stay at home all day with
mcKayla because I can't afford
babysitting. I have to be homeschooled
because my mom won't let me leave McKayla
to go to school.
Everyone thinks my daughter is actually my
sister, and when guys find out I have a
kid, they don't even want to look at me.
I know that right now, a baby seems like
the perfect idea. Because you think you
can take care of it without trouble and
that you'll be able to give it all of your
love. Even so, childrne are very ahrd to
handle. McKayla's almost one year old now,
and she's a pain of the butt over half of
the time. I thought I could handle this,
and everyone tells me "You're doing such a
great job, considering" but deep down, ont
he inside I am falling apart. I love my
daughte,r I do- with everything in me. But
there are those certian times where I
wonder what my life would be like if I had
just waited like everyone had told me to
do.
Please, do not get pregnant. Do not have a
baby. It will ruin any chances you have in
this world for a good life. Just wait,
even if it's only a few years, just wait.
Please, i am begging you, do not become
like me.
If ya wanna talk, you cna find me easy.
-"Babigurl" Maleyah
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Re: Closer to You Posted: 06-26-07 14:28pm
nvrgv^
wrote:
I know you don't know me,
but I am more like you than you might ever
believe. I'm fourteen years old, and two
years ago, I wanted a baby really abd too.
I was so lonely, and it felt like no one
ever relaly wanted to love me or be around
me. I'm the 8th child of 10, and so I
never got much attention, if any. Arund
the time I turned thirteen, two of my
brothers were in jail, two of my sister's
were pregnant (one for the second time),
and my sister and mom were in a hospital.
I haven't sene my dad since I was eight,
and my step-dad is int he anvy and so I
never see him.
I was so lonely that I became sexually
active and tried so hard to get pregnant.
Three weeks before my fourteenth birthday,
I finally got my wish, I was going to have
a baby. But the guy who was the father,
said he didn't want the baby and bailed
when I said Iw as keeping it. I was sure I
could take care of it myself, that I was
old enough because I'd been taking care of
myself forever, and I took care of my
neices all the time.
But, when my parents found out, they
kicked me out, and I had nowhere to go,
not even a shelter. My sister took me in
for a little while, and after I ahd my
baby, my lonliness didn't go away. It just
got deeper. My daughter McKayla gets on my
nerves all the time. And I can no longer
go to the bathroom by myself, let alone
have a few mintues to breathe. I actually
feel more lonely now because I don't have
anyone my age or of older intelligence to
tlak to. I stay at home all day with
mcKayla because I can't afford
babysitting. I have to be homeschooled
because my mom won't let me leave McKayla
to go to school.
Everyone thinks my daughter is actually my
sister, and when guys find out I have a
kid, they don't even want to look at me.
I know that right now, a baby seems like
the perfect idea. Because you think you
can take care of it without trouble and
that you'll be able to give it all of your
love. Even so, childrne are very ahrd to
handle. McKayla's almost one year old now,
and she's a pain of the butt over half of
the time. I thought I could handle this,
and everyone tells me "You're doing such a
great job, considering" but deep down, ont
he inside I am falling apart. I love my
daughte,r I do- with everything in me. But
there are those certian times where I
wonder what my life would be like if I had
just waited like everyone had told me to
do.
Please, do not get pregnant. Do not have a
baby. It will ruin any chances you have in
this world for a good life. Just wait,
even if it's only a few years, just wait.
Please, i am begging you, do not become
like me.
If ya wanna talk, you cna find me easy.
-"Babigurl"
Maleyah
wow i think you can help her more than
anyone
:] if u need anything at all...let me know
ok
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Preggo07
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2007 Posts: 20 Location: , CA USA
Posted: 07-13-07 11:06am
Oh girl, trust me, I'm also 13 going on 14
and maybe preggo, its crazy,it has only
been a week that I lost my virginity:lol:
But if u need advise on what to do I would
tell you to wait for the guy that u love
and he also loves u, Ive been with my bf
for 1 year and 1 week, he is the best guy,
dont just let and guy come over, let him
do whatever he wants and then u end up
pregnant and he leaves u, that'll be very
sad 4 u and the baby, knowing that it
doesnt have a daddy. U can add me as a
friend if u want, oh and on myspace also.
Just message me before, (if u have a
myspace, just add me) Take care!!
m 13
and very lonely i dont have a mom and my
dad and sister's are mostly gone and when
i see my friend taking care of her baby it
makes me sad i know i want a baby but im
afraid about sex cause im a virgin and
about how whould my dad take it if i do
become pregnant cause he always said if me
or my older sister gets pregnant then he
whould kick us out and i know i can take
care of it cause ever since i was 7 i've
been taking care of my baby sister plez
respond i really need someone to talk
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