hey, you already posted this in the other forum and you got responses that you didn't agree with.

honey you are 13 years old, it's perfectly normal for you to want a child but please do not act on those feelings.

think about it this way...

how are you going to buy it formula and diapers and toys and clothes? let me guess, your parents will help you? no, they might help you but that's being selfish, this is your choice and if you choose to have a baby they should not have to provide everything for it. if they wanted another baby then they would have one.


i'm guessing you don't have a car, you don't have a job, you don't have a place of your own or your high school diploma, why don't you think about those things first? i know what it feels like to want a baby, i've had those feelings since i started my period, it's hormonal and i bet you 90% of the girls here have gone through it. just don't act on those feelings.

Oh boy hunny, have I been there. I wanted a baby since I was a little girl. It's embarassing to admit, but when I was little, I used to pretend to nurse my baby dolls. I've wanted a baby since I WAS a baby myself. When I started my period, I began having sex to try to get pregnant. I was 13, the age you are now. I got pregnant when I was 14, but I lost the baby after only 10 weeks. Now I'm 16, over halfway through my pregnancy and I don't want to say I regret it, but I do want to say that it isn't what I had hoped for. DO you have any idea how hard it really is to be pregnant? morning sickness, weird movements inside you, it's hard to breathe sometimes... not to mention the ridicule and name-calling. I've been called more things than I care to discuss on the internet. also, think of everything you have to give up. I used to be on the varsity basketball team. I used to be a swimmer. I used to dance. I can't do that now with my big pregnant belly, and I personally try to be extra careful because I already lost one baby. I'm starting to get really nervous about the birth and raising of my baby. Being pregnant really made me realize how hard it is, especially going it alone. As was already mentioned, I thought my parents would help me, but when I got pregnant, my parents agreed to leave me to my own ways to support myself and my child. Any expenses they pay, I have to agree to pay back. Basically, this is a very adult decision that I made in a very childish time of my life. I urge you to wait. Please. Wait. You're going to be so much happier if you wait until you are older, in a stable relationship, and have the right environment to raise a child in.


Sorry this was so long, but I think it's something you should really be careful about. feel free to contact me if you need additional help, okay? Please be safe.

Leah

Please wait another 10 years, your'e only a child yourself you wouldn't be able to take care of a baby, babies are not little dolls that you can just dress up and all that, they cost lots of money which I'm guessing you don't have since you're too young to get a job, babies are cute but they ar also hard work.

I am 24 and have 2 kids (2 and a half and 6 weeks) you know what I am doing right now in the middle of the night (apart from browsing the net)? I am up feeding my 6 week old baby, I haven't slept in weeks and I'm exhausted, I'm not saying that babies are all bad but I am saying that its very hard work even for someone my age abd older.

So please, please, please wait a little while, stay in school and later down the track when you're a bit older and more mature THEN think about having a baby.

Hope I wasn't too mean, if I was the I apologise.

you wanna be a 13 year old carrying a baby at the mall? im 17 with a 1 year old.and you know what? its harder than you think.

hey im 16 and am 4 months pregnant
not that babies arnt wonderful...but...wiat
it is a hard thig to deal with
and a 13 year old is not ready. youre not ready when yuor 16...20 or even 30
think about it
just because youre lonely doesnt meen a baby will help.

Omann im 14 and my brothers girlfriend who is deff. like a sister to me , has a baby with my brother and he is two years old and is at my house all the time. Ill be online talking to my friends and here he comes busting my door open and screaming at me to play hockey with him. Hes nuts and i looove him and he is like my little buddy. COnsidering he goes home with his parents at the end of the day.lol. You dont want kids , your only a kid yourself as of me i plan to stay one as long as i can and do things kids do. people these days ry to grow up to fast !

ha! that sounds like a 2 year old
i agree with you though
she is still a kid herself and needs to be a kid
im only 16
15 weeks as of friday
and i left school
freinds
family
everything
13 is too young...but then again i dont ever think anyone is READY for a child...
but still you shouldnt force it...let it happen on its own and dont do anything stupid that you might regret
kids are forever
lonliness is not

can you imagine being 23 with a 10-year old?

that's just wrong.

yeah when you think about it that way...it sounds even worse
can a 13 yr olds body even handle a baby? do you know what risks your child would have to be born wit birth defects or retardation?

The exact same risks as your age actually

actually your "insides" arnt even matured yet at 13 or 14
the tissue lining in the uterus is very weak and cant support the futus
its not a good idea at 16 either but still 13 is wayyyy worse and even riskier

yeah, but stuff happens *shrug*


a 13 year old can carry a baby to term though.

Exactly, that was my point, a 13 year can have a perfectly healthy pregnancy with no complications whatsoever, the risks are only ever so slightly higher than someone of say 20and the risks are lower than that of someone in their 30's

oh yeah i know that i have a 13 yr old friend who got pregnant...she was 14 when she had the kid though...eh...not much of a differnce.

I know you don't know me, but I am more like you than you might ever believe. I'm fourteen years old, and two years ago, I wanted a baby really abd too. I was so lonely, and it felt like no one ever relaly wanted to love me or be around me. I'm the 8th child of 10, and so I never got much attention, if any. Arund the time I turned thirteen, two of my brothers were in jail, two of my sister's were pregnant (one for the second time), and my sister and mom were in a hospital. I haven't sene my dad since I was eight, and my step-dad is int he anvy and so I never see him.

I was so lonely that I became sexually active and tried so hard to get pregnant. Three weeks before my fourteenth birthday, I finally got my wish, I was going to have a baby. But the guy who was the father, said he didn't want the baby and bailed when I said Iw as keeping it. I was sure I could take care of it myself, that I was old enough because I'd been taking care of myself forever, and I took care of my neices all the time.

But, when my parents found out, they kicked me out, and I had nowhere to go, not even a shelter. My sister took me in for a little while, and after I ahd my baby, my lonliness didn't go away. It just got deeper. My daughter McKayla gets on my nerves all the time. And I can no longer go to the bathroom by myself, let alone have a few mintues to breathe. I actually feel more lonely now because I don't have anyone my age or of older intelligence to tlak to. I stay at home all day with mcKayla because I can't afford babysitting. I have to be homeschooled because my mom won't let me leave McKayla to go to school.

Everyone thinks my daughter is actually my sister, and when guys find out I have a kid, they don't even want to look at me.

I know that right now, a baby seems like the perfect idea. Because you think you can take care of it without trouble and that you'll be able to give it all of your love. Even so, childrne are very ahrd to handle. McKayla's almost one year old now, and she's a pain of the butt over half of the time. I thought I could handle this, and everyone tells me "You're doing such a great job, considering" but deep down, ont he inside I am falling apart. I love my daughte,r I do- with everything in me. But there are those certian times where I wonder what my life would be like if I had just waited like everyone had told me to do.

Please, do not get pregnant. Do not have a baby. It will ruin any chances you have in this world for a good life. Just wait, even if it's only a few years, just wait. Please, i am begging you, do not become like me.

If ya wanna talk, you cna find me easy.

-"Babigurl" Maleyah

wow i think you can help her more than anyone
:] if u need anything at all...let me know ok

Oh girl, trust me, I'm also 13 going on 14 and maybe preggo, its crazy,it has only been a week that I lost my virginity:lol: But if u need advise on what to do I would tell you to wait for the guy that u love and he also loves u, Ive been with my bf for 1 year and 1 week, he is the best guy, dont just let and guy come over, let him do whatever he wants and then u end up pregnant and he leaves u, that'll be very sad 4 u and the baby, knowing that it doesnt have a daddy. U can add me as a friend if u want, oh and on myspace also. Just message me before, (if u have a myspace, just add me) Take care!!