I Can't Ejaculate With My Gf.. Posted: 06-11-07 18:09pm
I have a new girlfriend and i've not been
with her too long i'm 18 and still a
virgin, I've never been any further than
kissing a girl until i met my current
girlfriend.
We've had quite a few chances to do stuff
with eachother but we are always in the
wrong place at the wrong time or the right
place at the wrong time. I can get an
errection fine and i can ejaculate when
masterbaitin by myself.
Can anyone tell me why this is happening,
Maybe because i'm under pressure to
ejaculate and that i'm not comfortable
with the time or place this is happening?
My girlfriend thinks its her fault and
that she is doing something wrong and i
keep assuring her its not her fault. I
REALLY like this girl and don't want this
problem to mess it up i feel asthough it
is already causing problems but maybe it's
me being paranoid.
Can anyone help me please?
|
Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Re: I Can't Ejaculate With My Gf.. Posted: 06-11-07 18:20pm
xxAnon
wrote:
Maybe because i'm under
pressure to ejaculate and that i'm not
comfortable with the time or place this is
happening?
Exactly. It sounds like you are under
pressure. You might be nervous and a
little uncomfortable. You might be trying
to force it. You might be worried about
losing her or upsetting her because of it.
All of that worrying just makes things
worse!
You can keep assuring her that it is not
her fault. You can even show her this
thread if you think it will help. There
are many other similar threads here too
because this is actually a very common
issue.
You will probably find that you have no
trouble at all when you feel comfortable
and relaxed and when you aren't worrying
about it so much. Try to find somewhere
private where you do not have to worry
about anyone hearing you, or walking in on
you, or anything like that so that can be
one less thing to worry about.
|
xxAnon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 06-11-07 18:22pm
Thank you, Since the first time this
happened i thought it may of been the
pressure i was under. The thing is we
never have any time completly alone
because of our ages & the awkward
distance we only see eachother once a week
sometimes more.
I'll try to explain to her about being in
the right place at the right time might
help, I'm trying not to worry about it but
after it happened again lately i started
worrying about losing her more and making
things worse.
|
fiona05
Supporter
Joined: 21 Dec 2005 Posts: 663 Location: , Norn Iron
Thanks: 1
Thanked:0
Posted: 06-11-07 19:57pm
my boyfriend had this issue for at least a
month into our relationship. it's ok! make
sure she knows it is not her, i think it
is just an issue getting completely
relaxed, which , as you say, may have a
lot to do with the time and place you have
sex. try not to feel under pressure. talk
it through with her. me and my boyfriend
didn't talk about it for a while, but once
we did talk about it and got a better
understanding of what was causing it,
guess what? the next time we had sex, he
came. keep communicating with her, and
next time you have sex, dont rush into
things. take your time touching, kissing,
hugging, experiencing intimacy with each
other. i'm sure your problem will go away
soon
|
ashamedman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 3
What I Did Posted: 06-11-07 22:07pm
every girl i have ever had sex with her i
never went the first 3 times on average..
i think its about getting in rythm with
each other.. one thing i did with the
first girl is get her on top and move her
hips back and forth like you are
controling her movements and speed.. kind
of like masturbation but better.. try to
get her to roll her hips a little bit too.
i would kill for this problem now. my
problem now is the other extreme.
|
xxAnon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 06-12-07 17:12pm
Is there prehaps anyway i can stop myself
from worryin so much? something that may
take my mind off of the worry lol.
|
Tylanas
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 12985
Thanks: 3
Thanked:0
Posted: 06-12-07 17:19pm
xxAnon
wrote:
Is there prehaps anyway i
can stop myself from worryin so much?
something that may take my mind off of the
worry lol.
A better question is... why are you
worrying? You need to confront the fear
you have, work it out... and then you
won't be worrying at all.
|
xxAnon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 4
Posted: 06-12-07 17:29pm
I really have no idea why i'm worried i
don't feel worried as such it's just
awkward being rushed with something like
this.
The one thing i am worried about is losing
her because of this, she thinks its her
fault even though i keep assuring her it's
not.
|
Tylanas
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Jul 2005 Posts: 12985
Thanks: 3
Thanked:0
Posted: 06-12-07 22:22pm
xxAnon
wrote:
I really have no idea why
i'm worried i don't feel worried as such
it's just awkward being rushed with
something like this.
The one thing i am worried about is losing
her because of this, she thinks its her
fault even though i keep assuring her it's
not.
If you feel you're being rushed, then the
time clearly isn't right. Wait a little.
Have sex when you're ready, and there will
be fewer problems!
Reassure your girl that it's not her
fault, and that when the time is right and
you are finally comfortable and not
rushed, you'll be able to have sex.
