Hi, Ben.

You gotta understand her and be there for her, even if you don't know why she feels like that. One thing that helps me is when people around me take to some place away from food and so on, for a walk or just to have fun.
It's gonna be hard, believe me. But I'm here, if you need me! Just call!

has her therapist ever asked about you coming to a session, when i was in therapy and had a bf at the time she had asked him to come into one of the sessions, so you can better understand the disease and ways to help. 4 yrs is a while to have it so its gonna take a while to recover from it, so dont think results are gonna happen right away it can take a long time even a yr or more. you just gotta be there for her no matter what, sh eneeds someone to support her through this because its a really hard thing to overcome after having it for so long.

i suggest to try and spend meal time with her. dont make her have a bad relationship with food . make her enjoy meal time because i know that she doesnt . i have had bulimia for 3 years and im recovering. she did the same thing as me when i told my mom . she opened up and told you . that is a cry for help. whether it looked like it or not . it was. and that means she wants to stop it . who doesnt? bulimia is horrible . i hate it . dont blame yourself for anything , or why she feels a certain a way even though you are trying to help her. this wont help the situation because then there are going to be two hopeless people rather then a strong person helping out as best as they can. ask her if you can come with her for just one visit to her therapist . when you have bulimia you get depressed very fast and easily and feel alone even though the ones you love are close to you . having freinds around helps alot. i hope this helps. if u have any specific questions feel free to ask . i have been through prolly everything she has.

i was once bulimic you need to keep an eye on your girlfriend it will be rlly hard for her to stop making herself puke bcoz once you Bcum bulimic it's sota addictive . when your with your girlfriend if she eats sumthing then goes 2 da loo shez probably gunna puke so tell her you r going with her you dont have to go in the loo with her but stand outside it sumtimes it might mean you have to go into the ladies loos but if you love her you'll do it gd look ps just let her know that is really upsettin u and she has to stop 4 u okay other wise you might lose her you can die frm bulimia you know, n she migh lose u support her k xxxoooxxxoooxxx

Hey, My Girlfriend has Bulimia aswell, all these tips are great, thank you so much everyone. It is really hard to cope, i try not to show it. When i am around her i try not to mention it and keep a brave face on, when all i want to do is cry. I thought if i don't remind her about it it will help and keep her happy, i don't know if i am doing the right thing... Please help :'(

It's a hard task, but if you're willing to do it, I wish you all the best. It really shows that you really care.
Feel free to ask for help.

I think talking to her made it alot better, i told her she looked perfect the way she was and i wouldn't like her any different i think it made her think These Girls (and Boys!) need the mental help! Just tell them they look beautifull,, ask them why they are not happy with there bodies and just tell them the opposite

Yes, indeed, help is really needed. But don't expect those thoughts and urges she has to just go away for once. They'll come and go, it's the natural evolution, but I hope that in the end they'll just go and don't come back.

hello,
make her feel really special ...
ask her if she wants you to go with her to the theripist ...
hope it helps !
she is lucky to have you
mizzcutie20

My girlfriend just finally opened up to why she wont kiss me. she was making so many different excuses like "youre stubbly" "my breath is gross" etc. etc. apparently she won't because she thinks that "no one will ever want her, because she is gross and fat". i was so confused that i pushed further and further until she explained. she's bulimic, and when she looks in the mirror she sees herself as flawed. she sees her self as fat and unattractive. she thinks her dad would love her more if she changed. sometimes she just doesnt eat instead of eating and doing away with it later. i tell her to eat, give her some of my lunch, beg her even, but usually to no avail. the furthest ive gotten is ONE grape and ONE bite of an apple. i tell her she is beautiful how she is and shes an amazing person and i kiss her on the cheek.

my question is should i keep trying to get her to eat? ill keep telling her shes beautiful no matter what anyone advises me to do... and should i keep kissing her on the cheek like i do?

i sound stupid and feel pretty stupid dont make me feel worse, just please answer the question without insulting me.

GOD BLESS YOU BLOOD! ONE BITE AT A TIME...My son is a boyfriend like you- as a mom, my heart hurts for all of you! Kiss her ,Hug her and BE THERE FOR HER!!! Talk to her until you think your lips will fall off... Maybe she'll kiss them if they hurt? You're great,keep loving her ...Jeff's Mom

Yea, I am also in your situation. My girlfriend was telling me that she was struggling with something and would NOT tell me what. It even got so far as to she wanted to breakup with the reason "I just can't handle a relationship." I told her to tell me what was wrong and she was still suborn and did not tell me. After a little begging she finally said "Im bulimic" I felt terrible. So I asked her if she loved me as much as she has said she does and she said yes. So I said we NEED to stay together and even though I know I can't help entirely and fix everything I will try my best to get us through this. She asked why did you say get "us" through this and I said "because I see this as my own problem as well because I care about you. And I am always here for you no matter what happens." I tell her she is beautiful and drop dead gorgeous all the time. I hug and kiss her every time I see her, and tell her I love her. She is currently seeing a doctor about it and her parents don't know about this they just think there is something wrong with her stomach. Shes not "overweight" at all if anything she is underweight. So whenever she says "I don't know if I am hungry" I always say "then eat something, if your even thinking about it then your body is hungry and you should eat" While shes eating and I am there I am always right next to her holding her next to me and kissing her shoulder. I can't tell physically if she appreciates what I am doing but I am sure she is, and it makes me so happy that I am helping the one great love of my life or at least trying my best. Its hard because at first I took it as if it was my fault. I told her that she should not let this ruin our great relationship and no matter how hard it is for you and even if you have no time for me because your at the doctor or in pain it doesn't matter to me as long as she is happy and healthy. I really hope I am taking the right approach to this and by reading what others have posted I think I am. I just love her so much and I HATE seeing her in so much pain and depressed. It kills me inside but I know one day we will get through this and everything will be fine and I tell her that all the time. I am always very positive about this situation and never look or talk about the negatives. So if someone reading this could tell me if I am doing the right thing, please please tell me because I don't know what else to do.

I had a girlfriend with bulimia too. Just be aware that they have coping mechanisms like alcohol or drugs (maybe prescription).
My gf seemed to be totally fine when she was at my house. So after some contemplating I asked her to move in. That lasted for about 2 weeks. Eventually she couldn't control it anymore. She moved out. We are still friends and I want to help her, however a relationship with a bulimic is extremely difficult. I don't mean to insult anyone who has it, but as a patient bf/gf... make sure this is the relationship you want.

I have had bulimia for 3 years now, which my boyfriend knows about. Recently, he put his ex up on his facebook infront of me, and i know this sounds totally ridiculous, but of all the times that he has told me before that skinny and fake is horrible, she was exactly this, and it affected me really bad and so i overdosed on laxatives, which i havent done for ages, and i ended up collapsing loosing my sight and in hospital. But im ok now (well ok as in i can see and i won't be doing that any time soon). But i think the best thing to do, is to listen to her and talk to her and be delicate with the situation, but i think that continuous questioning and telling her that you dont understand and just to stop doing it, is totally the wrong way to go, because it makes you feel more alone and more crazy! Try and research into it, whether looking through internet sights or on youtube, because it gives you a better understanding because you understanding her meanings for doing it, so then you could talk to her more in depth about it and maybe begin to help her when you understand her needs.. and never suggest Maccy D's or Pizza Hut or Chinese etc.. it drives me mad when my bf does that, because i continuously think.. are you stupid?!! wish my boyfriend would try to help me more

My girlfriend told me last weekend she was bulimic for a year now and that she only ever did it like once a month...is this possible? i am constantly worrying about it but i dont know how to bring it up or talk to her about cause i keep letting my feelings get in the way it hurts so much when i see her and think how beautiful she is and how much i love her but at the same time knowing she hates the way she looks... any suggestions?