i dont think there is anyone that will agree with you on that decision, your only 13 you havent even gotten to your best teenage years yet, there are 20 yr olds that have had children and wished they would have waited to finish living there life, its good that if u were pregnant you would finish school and stuff, btu at 13 are you even old enough to get a job, how would u buy its food and diapers and clothes and shots, and drs appts, or what if it gets sick and your in the ER it can get pretty expensive. You cant even drive yet, how will you get your kid to the appointments etc. i would say wait until you are out of school and you have found someone you love and are married to them before even thinking about children, you wouldnt want to ruin a poor childs life just because u wanted a baby to love and that loves you back. you need to find something else to feel that void, i dont think a baby is the way to go, your still a baby yourself

We hear loads of young girls saying they feel empty and want a baby (especially on Jeremy Kyle lol). I think it's just a phase that most girls go through, I've felt broody at times but if you think about it I think it's just your hormones going all over the place because you're still young and you have a long way to go yet until you're fully developed. It's just a phase, and it will pass.
I read a story about 2 14 year old sisters who raced each other to get pregnant. Their reason? Because they were bored. I think this is a bit sad, I'm sure they could've found a hobby or something to keep them entertained instead of a baby! Don't act on how you're feeling at the minute because it could just be a phase and you might really regret it later.

A baby will not complete you. So many people feel this way when they're teenagers it's normal. but believe me you don't want to have a baby at your age i'm just about to turn 16 and i'm 38 weeks pregnant and believe me it's one long hard road

Yeah I think it's a phase too. For some reason, I remember being 13 and hearing a lot of girls the same age who said they wanted babies. I think it might have something to do with the rush of hormones that you're suddenly getting? I don't know, but I agree about finding a hobby. If you're not enough by yourself, then you'll never be enough with another person either. This feeling of emptiness doesn't require the love of someone else to fill it, it requires you to love yourself. Adding the responsibility of motherhood to it would probably only make your condition worse, because it just aint a picnic.

As other people have said, a baby will not complete you. You are too young. You don't even know who you actually are yet; you haven't solidified your opinions or anything.

I bet your family would be upset because they don't want to see your childhood torn away from you!! No parent in their right mind would want to see that happen to their child.

You have no idea how difficult it would be to go to school and also have a baby. First: where is the baby going to go when you're in school? Who is going to help care for this baby when you're not there?

I think you need to talk to your parents about these feelings. They love you, they care. They can help set you straight. ((Admin: For some reason, the words "set" and "straight" are being edited into "set" and "straight". Quote my post to see what I mean. Why is this happening? ))

I don't think hardly anyone is going to support ((this word too is being changed to stuff)) these feelings you are having, because they all know that a baby at 13 is not good. Why, your body might not even be developed enough to give birth, and you would be putting yourself at great risk!! I don't think I even had my period at age 13 girl! I couldn't have gotten pregnant at your age! I don't want to get pregnant now, and I'm 22.

I'll admit, when I was your age, I was fascinated by pregnancy too. I wondered what it would feel like. I fantasized about it. The sensations I thought it would give my body tantalized me. I would lay face down with a pillow pressing on my stomach when I masturbated, to feel like I was pregnant - but I never, ever actually thought of getting pregnant! I knew better. You need to come to this realization as well.

Being pregnant at age 13 is bad for many reasons:

1. You can't support a baby physically (again, support? what?)
2. You can't support a baby mentally/emotionally (same here)
2. You can't even pay for pre-natal care
3. You can't pay for food, diapers, clothing, bedding, medical care, booster shots, sudden illness, check ups, etc. And the baby isn't even a year old yet.
4. You can't pay for daycare
5. In most states, you can't even get a job. Why? Because you are a child. Children should not give birth. Adults give birth. You are not an adult.

((Here's the list of words that are being "stuff"-ified:

set - set
straight - straight
support - support

Hope this gets fixed!))

How would a baby complete you? You aren't even finished with school, I would assume. Who would watch this baby all day? I assume you don't have money or a job for a sitter. How would you pay for diapers? Have you been to an ob-gyn before? Do you know about prenatal care? Are you taking prenatal vitamins?

Don't be selfish. At 13, there is no way you can have a baby responsibly. If you were to get pregnant right now, it would be out of selfishness. You have to think about what that baby needs and deserves, and you would have to think about who would end up supporting this baby because I doubt it would be you.

You could try different hobbies, playing a sport, learning a language, something that can make you feel good about yourself.

We of course know Llewy meant sport, but right now the site is turning every single word that starts with s and ends with t into "stuff".

its making me mad! lol...lets test it:

sport

Yeeeah. Me too.

gahhhh i tried to type __port

Whoa, I did not even notice that! Playing a stuff?

That is okay you want to have a baby. I too want to have a baby. The question is one do you have a husband that will help you take care of the baby? How do you plan to financially support the baby? If you have those straighten out then go ahead an have a baby.

You're actually advising a 13 year old girl to have a baby?? A girl that young may "think" she has everything worked out because she doesn't really know everything that is involved with motherhood- emotionally, financially and physically. Please tell me you were being sarcastic.

Seriously. I didn't even have a period when I was 13.

I'd suggest that you try babysitting. Having your own kid, especially at your age, could be something you're unable to support as others have said. Also your body most likely isn't ready for it; for example your hips may not be wide enough and you don't want to have a scare on your belly.

I have a baby niece and she spent more time with me than anyone else back before I came to college this month. It's amazing to see how kids take after you as they grow, and they can be fun when they're not in bad moods. However this doesn't mean you have to have a baby to experiance this.

I'd suggest you try babysitting. You may have a young cusion or anyone really that you could watch or even help take care of with the parents. If a neighbor your family is friends with has a kid then ask them if you could ever help out or babysit; even if you had to do it under supervision of your parents until you gain their trust.

Then, when you're sixteen you could get a job at a daycare center. My high school had a class where all you did was take care of the babies in their daycare for students with babies, and that you can start your freshman year.

That's a very good suggestion, unknown

Yay! Thank you ^.^

I hope she conciders it..lots of people think you need to have a baby to have a baby experiance. Though this is true, it doesn't have to be yours

I can understand where you are coming from. I wanted a baby also at 13. But then I came to a realization that there was a lot of things that I had no control over at 13 that would need to be happening. I ended up having my daughter at 16. I can tell you that even at 16 I was not even ready what so ever. I did not expect to have to go through watching the baby cry with the shots, going through some really horrible sicknesses, having to ask my parents for help with diapers, wipes, formula, bottles, creams, lotions......You name it. If I was you, I would wait until I was finished with school. I said that I was going to finish school when I got pregnant with mine, but then there is a situation of not having a babysitter and then the ones that would wanted alot of money. You do not want to throw away the best years that are coming up with a baby. I hope that you understand and can see that it is not in the best interest for you & for the baby.

I was feeling lonely after my partner left and wanted something to care for, I couldnt get a dog cus Im out for long hours with work but I got two baby rats. They really cheer'd me up and I have made new freinds in the large rat community online. They depend on me and come to see me when I get home, they are little sweeties and they are coming to thier name now-super cute. Try a pet before you get pregnant. Alot of women and couples belive that a baby is the way to fill a hole in there life but I dont think it works in reality. You might get post natal depression and feel isolated not being able to do anything but look after your baby. Try starting a thread in the mental health section, share your feelings and get listened to