I Fell In Love With a Bipolar Guy ... i Need Help ! Posted: 06-10-07 21:39pm
So I have been talking to a guy from work
in the U.S> office (I am in Canada). It
started as flirting to texting to calling
to talking everyday. When we are not
talking we are emailing or texting. We
developed STRONG feelings before we met.
He told me he never talks on the phone. He
told be all his deep dark secrets. I was
100% honest with him with all my stories,
and I am never am.
We met last week, I spent 4 days and
nights with him. We both fell in love. I
am convinced he is the one for me, despite
we only been talking for a month.
He told me he is bipolar. He has a VERY
aggressive sexual nature. He like control
sexually. He told me he always has these 2
lives, 2 girlsfriends at once to fulfill
both sides, his good and bad. He told me
he thinks I am the one, he said this even
before we met. Before we met he got rid of
his friend / partner b/c he said their sex
was no good and he could never change his
sexual vices fort someone. We both clicked
and after an amazing 4 days as soon as I
left he got all freaked out.
He tells me he loves me and is scared to
hurt me. He is confused and does not know
what to do. He said he was not ready for
this, for, to be everything he wanted. It
has been 8 years since he has had sex with
emotion and got everything he wanted....I
gave him everything he wanted...and now he
is a messed up not knowing what to do. We
barely talk now b/c he is scared to lead
me on in case he can't fix himself.
What do I do? I love him, I want him and I
am so scared of loosing him? What do I
do.....
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Mayhem1979
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2007 Posts: 4 Location: Toronto
Posted: 06-10-07 21:52pm
Here is an email I just recieved from him
This is intense
very intense
sorry i didnt write back last night. i
took some pills and passed the
medical question out. i love you. i
really do. its freakin me out. im not
ready
for this. i am really not. I was and
still am really, totally
unprepared for this. and you were right
when you said that you were falling
for a stranger. thats what it is. i
love talking, i loved last week.
it was so intense. i am really not ok
with myself, and what i want. i
dont think that what i want is whats best
for me...or rather what i
thought i wanted. you helped me so much
already...and we barely know each
other. i feel freakishly close to you,
and want to maintain that...i
want to be here for you...i just cant
handle anything more than
that..not now. i really need to figure
caca out with myself...im gonna work
hard on it., but i cant be what you need
to me to be..and i am not
comfortable with that fact.
i dunno..im rambling...i hate this anxious
feeling..
i love you..and i am sorry that i am such
a mess...
i hate myself for reasons like this..
ill talk to you soon i hope...
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Birch
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Posted: 06-10-07 21:52pm
I love the whirl of new love...
Bipolars can be very, very immediately
deep and passionate and devotional people.
It makes for a great 'honeymoon period'.
If I were you, I'd enjoy the ride, make
sure everyone is treated with the upmost
respect (including yourself) and be
careful. If things start getting hyper
chaotic, make like a tree and leave. Give
it more time. Don't allow yourself to be
sucked into a vortex of crazy.
Hypersexuality is a trait of bipolar
people. This can be hard to change, and
it might not have a thing to do with you.
Do some reading about bipolar, and take
the time to get to know one another. I
hope you find something beautiful.
Best of luck!
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Mayhem1979
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2007 Posts: 4 Location: Toronto
Posted: 06-10-07 21:57pm
Thank you.
I do not want it to be a honeymoon. I do
love him. I know it's new. How do I show
him I care withiout being pushy. He doesn
not want lectures on what to do. He says
he knows...He thinks he will never be
normail he tells me to have no faith in
him b/c he has none in himself.....
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adamnoor84
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 4 Location: Falls Church
I Would Be Careful! Posted: 06-11-07 23:07pm
I had two friends the guy was Bipolar and
the girl was not, anyway to cut a long
story short! They both met through me, I
am Bipolar and They Hit it off almost
instantly they fell in love, He is
aggressive sexually or she tells me, and
he tended to be very controlling as when
they started dating I began to lose my
friend(The girl) by the day! He was very
obsessive, very verbally abusive, and now
they are broken up, my relationship with
him began to collapse too! So in a sense I
lost 2 friends at once! Anyway, my point
is that, he hasn't been in love like that
before that he did not know how to react,
and you are telling us that this guy of
yours did not have sex for 8 years! If I
were you I would becareful, I am not
saying don't jump in to the relationship
but you should make sure you are happy and
comfortable with the situation! If it
starts to crumble, you have to be willing
to leave at the first sign of trouble or
you may find yourself like my friend! She
almost went nuts, and she lost all her
friends before she decided to put an end
to it!
