Well, it seems you have either gotten some bad influences from common culture... or you're just lesbian and prefer women. That's okay too. Not every female has to enjoy or even want sex with men.

When I think about the guys I have been with and how I felt about them I liked the security or the attention, I liked the way they looked at me and made me feel special, i liked them cus they were interesting and apparently nice people. I do look at some men and get a little flutter and I have had sex with men and enjoyed it. Also my last relationship my b/f was abusive so i dont want my sexuality to be influenced buy something negative I often dream of women, and dreamt about the hottest chick last night, there was a guy in it (Gordon Ramsay) who was touching her and that was sexy. Sorry Im rambling

Hey, everyone has their own opinions about sex.

If the relationship is loving and the sex consentual, then it is not degrading for a man to have sex with a woman, or vice versa. That goes for same-sex relationships too.

It's all about respect for yourself and your partner

It doesn't sound like you're a lesbian or anything, and even though you have these dreams about women etc it doesn't mean you are. Maybe you don't think a man having sex with a woman is disrespectful; maybe it's the situation when you see it. Or you might just have a bit of a fear about sex and allowing aomeone complete access to your body. As Eiri said before, it could be that you recieved bad influences about sex, that maybe made you feel it was wrong or dirty. I know how that feels, I was always told (primarily by my dad) not to let guys touch me, bad things will happen etc and now I can't even enjoy sex because it causes me pain, and I think this one of the reasons why.
JUst remember that sex isn't 'wrong' whether it's man/woman man/man woman/woman or whatever. It's only disrespectful if it is done against a partner's wishes.

Gordon Ramsay eh? Not someone I've dreamt of myself lol but I can sort of see why you would! lol