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Vaginal Orgasm Posted: 06-09-07 15:22pm


Everytime my wife and I have sex she has to touch her clitoris during intercourse to have an orgasm. She has a clitoral orgasm every time we have sex and seems to enjoy sex. We have tried to find the G spot that books talk about and think at times we are stimulating it b/c she feels like she has to urinate ect which is what you are supposed to feel when stimulating this spot. The problem i have is she has never orgasmed vaginally and i feel that it may be something that i am not doing corectly. Can anyone give me a word of advise? What are other womens experience with clitoral vs vaginal orgasm???

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Re: Vaginal Orgasm
Posted: 06-09-07 16:21pm

wfalba wrote:

Everytime my wife and I have sex she has to touch her clitoris during intercourse to have an orgasm. She has a clitoral orgasm every time we have sex and seems to enjoy sex. We have tried to find the G spot that books talk about and think at times we are stimulating it b/c she feels like she has to urinate ect which is what you are supposed to feel when stimulating this spot. The problem i have is she has never orgasmed vaginally and i feel that it may be something that i am not doing corectly. Can anyone give me a word of advise? What are other womens experience with clitoral vs vaginal orgasm???

I have to touch my clitoris too, and I've never had a g-spot orgasm either. Some women just can't, and that's how they are built.

Secondly, she might actually be vaginally orgasming, but not "gushing". Even fewer women gush!!

Here's the breakdown:

Many - but not all - women can clitorally orgasm.
Fewer can g-spot aka vaginally orgasm.
Even fewer can "gush".

You may be doing everything right; she just might not be able to do it.

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Vaginal Orgasm Posted: 06-09-07 16:51pm


So i was discussing this subject with my wife and she said that thinking back she has had different types of orgasms and some being much more intense than others especially if she had and orgasm when i am behind her. My new question is what type of satisfaction does a women get from the pure vaginal intercourse, how is it better than just stimulating her clitoris alone. i know this may sound stupid...

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Re: Vaginal Orgasm
Posted: 06-09-07 17:49pm

wfalba wrote:

So i was discussing this subject with my wife and she said that thinking back she has had different types of orgasms and some being much more intense than others especially if she had and orgasm when i am behind her. My new question is what type of satisfaction does a women get from the pure vaginal intercourse, how is it better than just stimulating her clitoris alone. i know this may sound stupid...

The sensation of being filled; of having the g-spot stimulated, the movement and friction, all of it is (usually) extremely pleasurable. That's the kind of enjoyment a woman gets; just as a man enjoys the sensation of being enveloped someplace tight and hot.

Most women prefer to have vaginal intercourse and clitoral stimulation at the same time, not one or the other. The two things together are better than alone because that's how the woman's body is built, lol.

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Re: Vaginal Orgasm
Posted: 06-11-07 14:16pm

wfalba wrote:

Everytime my wife and I have sex she has to touch her clitoris during intercourse to have an orgasm. She has a clitoral orgasm every time we have sex and seems to enjoy sex. We have tried to find the G stuff that books talk about and think at times we are stimulating it b/c she feels like she has to urinate ect which is what you are supposed to feel when stimulating this stuff. The problem i have is she has never orgasmed vaginally and i feel that it may be something that i am not doing corectly. Can anyone give me a word of advise? What are other womens experience with clitoral vs vaginal orgasm???

She has problems with libido. Advise her to take Sentia pills if you can do it. It helps women to be able to have orgasms. It's also very important to be healthy in general.

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Re: Vaginal Orgasm
Posted: 06-11-07 14:50pm

Rebus wrote:

She has problems with libido. Advise her to take Sentia pills if you can do it. It helps women to be able to have orgasms. It's also very important to be healthy in general.

No, she does not have a problem with her libido. The original poster did not say anything to indicate that his wife had a problem or was abnormal in any way. His wife sounds very normal. In fact, if she is having orgasms at all, she is lucky.

Many women never have any orgasms. Very few women have orgasms without clitoral stimulation. In fact, it is not even proven that women can have orgasms with no clitoral stimulation at all. The clitoris is the female "hot spot." It has many nerve endings. It is similar to the penis, but it has even more nerve endings.

Sex and vaginal stimulation are still nice, but they are not enough to bring most women to orgasm.

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Posted: 06-11-07 14:58pm


Yeah, DOn't listen to rebus. Your wife does not seem to have a libido problem at all!! She seems like a totally healthy young woman.

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Re: Vaginal Orgasm
Posted: 06-14-07 14:50pm

Llewellyn wrote:

No, she does not have a problem with her libido. The original poster did not say anything to indicate that his wife had a problem or was abnormal in any way. His wife sounds very normal.

What I have said is not my opinion, but the words of my doctor. I had the same problem and I know that the ability to have vaginal orgasms depends on libido. It's not an "illness" of course. It only means that the woman's organism needs help. Herbs, diets and supplements (I have tried Sentia, but there are others) are very helpful. It's a real help.

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Re: Vaginal Orgasm
Posted: 06-14-07 14:55pm

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If your doctor told you that, I would suggest changing doctors! I assure you this woman sounds very normal. Also, vaginal orgasms and G-spots are not proven. At this point, they are only a theory. Currently, the only proven way for a woman to orgasm is through clitoral stimulation, and if his wife is having one every time they have sex, she is having them more than most women do! Some women seem to have G-spots and vaginal orgasms, but most women never do. No one is sure why some women seem to or if all women are even capable of it.

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Re: Vaginal Orgasm
Posted: 06-18-07 16:08pm

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What does it mean: "it is only a theory"??? I FEEL vaginal and clitoral orgasms MYSELF and I'm not a theory, I'm a real woman!!! From what you have said I can make a conclusion that orgasms are a theory for you. I'm sorry if I hurt you, but you say very strange things. The theory is an idea about g-spot, not about different types of orgasms! As for the doctor I can only thank her. She has helped me a lot advising diets, Sentia and exercises. I have wonderful sex life. I couldn't have vaginal orgasms for many years. I read articles about women who "can't have g-spot orgasms" and didn't believe. So these articles were written by ppl who know about it "theoretically".

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Re: Vaginal Orgasm
Posted: 06-18-07 16:24pm

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You do not seem to understand research very well. Most people don't. I know I sure didn't until I actually started doing it! What you have to realize is that you are not all women in the world. Right now, G-spots are not proven to be in all women. Similarly, it is not proven that all women are capable of having vaginal orgasms. That does not mean that no women do. It just means that the fact that a few women seem to, does not mean we have evidence that all women do. Real research is incredibly thorough. We cannot make claims about all women in the world based on the experiences of just a few women.

If you conclude from that that orgasms are only a theory for me, then either I am not explaining this very well, or you do not understand orgasms. Clitoral orgasms are proven. All women are capable of having them, even though some women do not. Vaginal orgasms are something different. We need to do more research on them, but so far there is no evidence that all women are capable of having them.

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Posted: 06-18-07 17:00pm


Yeah, the g-spot debate is actually a little complicated. The thing that the scientists can't agree on for the most part is terminology- what parts specifically can be called the g-spot. Also the term "g-spot" isn't medically recognized. "Urethral sponge," is generally the accepted medical term. The g-spot itself isn't actually a spot, it's an area anywhere between 1-3 inches or so inside the vagina along the front wall (top). It may be ridged (like the roof of your mouth). It's generally believed that all or most women do have this area inside of their vaginas, but that each woman responds to stimulation of it differently. My husband and I don't even go near my vagina until nearly half an hour into foreplay. By the time we do, I'm extemely aroused and very well lubricated. It's much easier to find the g-spot if I'm very aroused because it swells. I lay on my back, usually with my upper half propped up on pillows (for no real reason other than it's comfortable and I want to watch. lol). He inserts two fingers and curves them towards the top (front wall) and moves them back and forth, almost like he's saying "come here" with his fingers. I need a lot of repeditive strokes, taps (which drive me crazy) and somewhat firm pressure to come. How long it takes usually depends on how aroused I was to begin with. Some people like to have clitoral stimulation too, but actually I find it distracting. The clitoral orgasm is just so different, that when my husband switches from my vagina to my clit, I almost feel like I have to "start over," or something. Afterwards I'm completely wiped out- walking is so not a good idea! If my husband continues to stimulate me even after and then we have intercourse, I can sometimes orgasm again just from the penetration. (Not always because sometimes I'm just too darn tired.) That's how I have a g-spot orgasm, which is different for me than a regular vaginal orgasm. To the original poster- don't give up! It sounds to me like you're doing everything right by exploring and trying out different things. If her mind is too focused on having the orgasm, then it won't happen regardless. Tell her to just enjoy it, and if she doesn't come vaginally, then no worries, you'll work on it again another time. It's vitally important that she feels safe and supported by you, and not pressured. Besides, if what you're doing feels good to her, then you've already succeeded eh? I think the worst thing a person can do is simply write it off like it isn't possible and give up. So please, do continue and by all means have lots of fun!

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Posted: 06-18-07 17:53pm


I haven't had a pure vaginal orgasm yet. I still like my old fashioned clitoral ones. However, I know exactly what you mean when you talk about the tapping and the pressure; it drives me nuts in a good way! My orgasms when done in conjunction with the g-spot are more of a "push down!" feeling than they used to be. I normally pull up with my vaginal muscles when I clitorally orgasm. It's almost like the perfect spot moves on me as I get closer to orgasm, so I have to poke around and press and prod to find it.

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Posted: 06-19-07 02:55am

Eiri wrote:

I haven't had a pure vaginal orgasm yet. I still like my old fashioned clitoral ones. However, I know exactly what you mean when you talk about the tapping and the pressure; it drives me nuts in a good way! My orgasms when done in conjunction with the g-spot are more of a "push down!" feeling than they used to be. I normally pull up with my vaginal muscles when I clitorally orgasm. It's almost like the perfect spot moves on me as I get closer to orgasm, so I have to poke around and press and prod to find it.

That's actually great news, because that's how mine started. I started getting that "push down" feeling that you mentioned, and was like wth? I really think that it's almost like a muscle that has to be exercised before it's ready to go. Isn't it lovely to have to keep working that one out though? lol

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Posted: 06-19-07 12:50pm

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Eiri wrote:

Heh ^^ Yep, we'll see how it goes in the future huh?

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Posted: 06-19-07 13:13pm


I have orgasms during sex with no clit stimulation at all. What're those called? I don't know the difference. It does remind me of that Woody Allen line..."I finally had an orgasm and my doctor says it was the wrong kind" and he responds something like everytime he has an orgasm it's always the right kind or something. From Manhattan.

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Thanks Guys Posted: 06-19-07 13:21pm


I just wanted to say thank you all very much for responding. The only thing i failed to mention is that my wife has polycystic ovarian syndrome and produces no progesterone. She is the atypical type so she has no acne, facial hair, she is very thin, she is 25 and weighs 115 lbs. I mention this b/c i want you to know that is is very healthy otherwise, she excercises regularly and eats well. So does her medical proble have anything to do with it????

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Posted: 06-19-07 13:22pm

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I have orgasms during sex with no clit stimulation at all. What're those called?

I don't know the difference. It does remind me of that Woody Allen line..."I finally had an orgasm and my doctor says it was the wrong kind" and he responds something like everytime he has an orgasm it's always the right kind or something. From Manhattan.

I would say you are clearly having a vagina aka g-spot orgasm. Neither kind is right or wrong, it's just that clitoral ones are far more common.

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Posted: 06-19-07 13:31pm

eiri wrote:

I would say you are clearly having a vagina aka g-spot orgasm. Neither kind is right or wrong, it's just that clitoral ones are far more common.

Thanks, that's what I was thinking. I can have clit ones, too, but they take longer. Go figure.

The whole "wrong kind of orgrasm" thing was a joke. Wink

I'm sure you knew that; and were just doing the- "some people take things very seriously and literally" thing you do sometimes.

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Posted: 06-19-07 13:31pm

wfalba wrote:

I just wanted to say thank you all very much for responding. The only thing i failed to mention is that my wife has polycystic ovarian syndrome and produces no progesterone. She is the atypical type so she has no acne, facial hair, she is very thin, she is 25 and weighs 115 lbs. I mention this b/c i want you to know that is is very healthy otherwise, she excercises regularly and eats well. So does her medical proble have anything to do with it????

Most women just don't orgasm vaginally. So if she did not have any medical problems, chances are she would still not orgasm vaginally anyway. It's kind of like if she complained because you don't orgasm when she touches your nose Laughing

. If that's just not how you orgasm, that's the way it is. While some women might orgasm vaginally, it's not the majority, and there is certainly nothing wrong with women who do not. It's just not the kind of stimulation that works for them.