I know this is an old post but I figured I'd reply anyway! I'm a young male and I have had pretty much identical sympthoms for the past 4 years, I get sereve bouts of nausea about 4/5 times a year which last 48hrs to a week, during which time I often can barely hold down water and since I have weight issues (being underweight) it can become quite serious... which adds to the stress! I have also suffered less severe nausea (but still uncomfortable and appetite inhibiting) on a regular basis. I have always had an interest in medicine and have been to every specialist/alternative form of medical consult available. I have a keen interest and background in psychology, which is actually intrinsic to my problem (over analytical.... not helpful with stress) and so based on all that this is my opinion on your problem! Drugs definitely don't help, I'd have no problem 'popping' anything to ease the pain (I take protium for my GERD) but anxiety pills don't relieve the underlying problem so they will eventually reoccur!
It was hard for me to come to terms with the idea that my problem was mainly psychological (although these sympthoms nearly always go hand in hand with gastritis/gastroenteritis and the general inflammatory reactions that can occur from these) but it my opinion it is very much due to concious and subconcious stress or moreover the inability to deal with these!
Psychological help, acupuncture and naturally keeping your life as stress free as possible are helpful tools to ease the condition but personally I feel a more fundamental change in outlook toward lufe is needed. I have never attended a yoga class and I don't know any of the classic yoga poses but over a year ago I was given a book which discussed yoga in a traditional sense (theory) outlining 10 principles to living your life, the more I reread these and casually researched them, the more I relaxed and the less often/severe the sympthoms occured! It's basically a taoist/buddhist philosophy of life but it doesn't have to be a huge part of your life or affect your religion if you are religious!
In essence I would highly recommend studying these principles, the importance of breath(breathing) in your life and in your body. Maybe attend some relevent classes (again most local yoga class will be more about stretching and although there prob will be a dialogue about breathing and meaning it'l most likely be too superficial to be particularly benefical for your purposes). As someone said in previous reply... it can be mainly in your head and still very much real, no medical person in the world would deny the implicit connection between body and mind! I honestly feel your pain, it is a horrific debilitating condition! I hope this helps.
I know this is a long reply and to be honest I feel like saying alot more (particularly on the cause of condition) so if you've anyone has any other questions. . . . =)