My wife was recently diagnosed with bp.
She is seeing therapy and is on meds now.
I am very involved in her life and
supportive and questioning everything in
her life. She tells me she needs space,
she has cheated on me online but not with
an actual life experience. I am very
insecure. she has never liked men as her
dad was bp and she hates men. sorry i am
all over the place but i just dont know
how to express myself right now. i dont
know what is real and what is the bp. how
do you know what someone with bp actualy
feels and what is actualy real. we have
been married 11 years and have 2 children.
I try to be there for her, but recently
she is saying she needs her space and
wants me to do more things with my freinds
because i have been toooo involved with
her life and she is getting annoyed. one
problem with that. I dont have many
freind because i try to be there for her
when she needs me and gets frustrated with
the kids. she has always been my best
freind, but recently im the one that she
is most annoyed at toward the end of her
day. I am very insecure now and not sure
how to deal with it. she say they are my
feeling and i need to deal with them. How
do i deal with my own insecurities. she
has promised me this will never happen
again. she has been faithful for a year.
but doesnt seem very sorry when we talk.
thanks for listening. I am just at a low
point right now and am ready to start
concentrating on my self and my kids right
now. Confused and need people with
experience
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Jessika
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2006 Posts: 14 Location: Cleveland
Hope This Helps Posted: 06-08-07 11:43am
The best thing you can do is help
yourself. The father of my child is
bipolar. We never married and are not
together now. But I got advice off of this
forum and I am now seeing a therapist
myself. Its made a huge difference. My x
was very good at making me feel insecure
and brought down my self esteem. He always
told me I was to blame and also wanted his
time and would push me away. But then the
next day he is telling me how much he
loves me. He takes medication, but
sometimes take too much or too little. Its
always up and down so currently I don’t
allow him to see our son. Anyway I found a
clinical therapist that deals with
bipolar’s and their spouses and
significant others. I have made friends
with a couple of other girls who are
either married or were married to
bipolar’s and we talk all the time,
which helps. It’s probably a good idea
to get your kids into a therapist at least
once a month, as they most likely will be
confused about her changing behavior. Find
someone good in your area that deals
exclusively with people that have mental
illnesses. Read all you can and good luck!
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supportivehusband20
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 7
Re: Who Is My Real Wife? Posted: 06-22-07 15:00pm
kindwords
wrote:
My wife was recently
diagnosed with bp. She is seeing therapy
and is on meds now. I am very involved in
her life and supportive and questioning
everything in her life. She tells me she
needs space, she has cheated on me online
but not with an actual life experience. I
am very insecure. she has never liked men
as her dad was bp and she hates men.
sorry i am all over the place but i just
dont know how to express myself right now.
i dont know what is real and what is the
bp. how do you know what someone with bp
actualy feels and what is actualy real.
we have been married 11 years and have 2
children. I try to be there for her, but
recently she is saying she needs her space
and wants me to do more things with my
freinds because i have been toooo involved
with her life and she is getting annoyed.
one problem with that. I dont have many
freind because i try to be there for her
when she needs me and gets frustrated with
the kids. she has always been my best
freind, but recently im the one that she
is most annoyed at toward the end of her
day. I am very insecure now and not sure
how to deal with it. she say they are my
feeling and i need to deal with them. How
do i deal with my own insecurities. she
has promised me this will never happen
again. she has been faithful for a year.
but doesnt seem very sorry when we talk.
thanks for listening. I am just at a low
point right now and am ready to start
concentrating on my self and my kids right
now. Confused and need people with
experience
My wife is sooo similar.... I really miss
her... she is in denial... I need to get
her in to get tested.
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mrsbuzski
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jun 2007 Posts: 103 Location: U.S.A. -- Illinois
Trust Posted: 06-23-07 03:01am
The Psyche:
I'm bipolar but he's the one with the
mental condition!
Who is to say?
My "other half" and I have been married
for over 25 years.
I think, "He", is the one who drove me
crazy originally!
That; or my, "Mother"!
Funny! Huh! I do believe in the theory,
what goes around comes around.
But, "he", is just like the rest of us.
So blame is no good.
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supportivehusband20
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Jun 2007 Posts: 7
Re: Trust Posted: 06-25-07 08:01am
mrsbuzski
wrote:
The Psyche:
I'm bipolar but he's the one with the
mental condition!
Who is to say?
My "other half" and I have been married
for over 25 years.
I think, "He", is the one who drove me
crazy originally!
That; or my, "Mother"!
Funny! Huh! I do believe in the theory,
what goes around comes around.
But, "he", is just like the rest of us.
So blame is no
good.
My wife swears I drove her to this... She
has not officially been diagnosed.. but..
she is bi polar.. type 2.
She blames me... and I accept that blame
cause I dont want to lose her... and I
want her to get help.
Its none of your fault... from what I've
read thus far its the disorder... You
didn't ask to be that way and you cant
help what it does to you... they didn't
know it was gonna be this way and trust me
it is VERY hard to not go a little crazy
dealling with this disorder.
Move on... if you are on your meds... and
stable try to move forward. Blame gets
you nowhere at this point.
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CiaoBella
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2007 Posts: 7
Posted: 07-11-07 12:28pm
This is all so interesting to me because
for the first time I feel like some of my
x's wierd behavior was the bipolar and not
him, I didn't know just how many of his
actions were because of the illness. It
was such a rollercoaster with him and he
could never accept responsibility for
anything, he was always the victim and got
mad when I stood up for myself and told
him that he needed to change something
because it was hurting the relationship.
I just broke up with him last week, we had
been together 2 years and though I love
him more than anything in the world, if
someone doesn't want to get better, they
won't ever get better and it got to
hurtful waiting for him to decide to try.
I hope things get better with your wife.
It sounds like you both need some
counseling, it helps a lot to have the
support!
