why do men go to them? what do they /
you'll get out of going there? is a night
out with the guys just having fun or is
there more to it? pls help because my
husband goes alot and says he does not go
up to get dances. i know he does but that
doesn't bother me much. what gets me is
what happens in there and after the bara
closes
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Llewellyn
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jan 2007 Posts: 1743 Location: NY
Posted: 06-05-07 22:13pm
Men go for different reasons. Men aren't
clones who all do the same thing for the
same reasons. Some men go to see the
women. Others go just to hang out with
the guys. Some go because they might have
a friend that works there, or because it
is a close place to get a beer, or any
other number of reasons.
Now, that being said, I should point out
that not all men go. Also, some women go.
So we're not talking about something that
is just a "guy thing."
If you want to know exactly why your
husband goes, you'll just have to talk to
him about it. There are at least a dozen
reasons why someone might go, so we won't
be able to tell you exactly why he does.
If you're ok with his going there, but
think he might be doing a lot more than
looking once the place closes, say so.
You should be able to communicate and be
happy in your relationship. If you feel
like you can't trust him after the place
closes, that's something that will have to
be looked into. If there is no trust,
something might be wrong in the
relationship. Maybe couples counseling
would help you two if you can't sort it
out on your own.
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HealthySex
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jan 2007 Posts: 414
Posted: 06-06-07 17:07pm
He stays after it closes? Never been to
one like that.
That's something you'll have to talk about
with him.
