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Q: cheating girl

asked by: Erion on June 4th, 2007

New User

hi all....

i been in a relationship for nearly 3 years.. in the beggining everything was nice and smooth.. as the days pass-by things dont look so great...

firts i have found out that she was chattin to a guy on msn and when i so the messages she was going to meet him as she felt for him so much..

2nd- she came home the other day so drunk telling me that shes feelin for someone at work and hes so cute.....

3rd shes going out alot with her friends ( or probebly) more then a friend and last time she left home 9 in the morning and came the next day 6 in the morning.... i dont know what went on but i know she has done something that day. as she came home telling me im sorry that i hurted u and she cryed all day while hugging and kissing me ( i just dont understand) is she feeling guilty about something that she has done ...

and i have told her that look for you'r own place to rent .... as he lives in my flat.... but she dosent want to leave i dont know whats wrong and i have had enough of this.... getting hurt and so on

if there is someone to give me some advice i would be very thankfull

with regards

Eri

Replies(12)

Spirit

replied on June 6th, 2007

Experienced User

It's called "taking you for granted".................give her her walking papers! Smile

KatieFlower

replied on June 6th, 2007

Experienced User

It sounds to me like after she went out for that whole day and night then she started crying, it sounds like she cheated on you and now she feels bad. She thinks that no matter what she does you will always be there when she is done having fun for the night. Don't let her run you over. There are better girls out there. Good Luck Wink

Willa Weintraub

replied on June 6th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Spirit wrote:

It's called "taking you for granted".................give her her walking papers! Smile

I agree.it sounds like she wants someone to take after her and someone to come home to afer a good night outof partying.SHe is using you.she has done something wrong,she likes someone else and even told you! tell her to get to steppin!

Erion

replied on June 6th, 2007

New User

i have told her to move out this week or so.... last time told her to move out she went all mad and angry and fighting with me till she called the police Sad

i m sceard man... i dono what she's into to... im not using violent or something but last time police belived her that i was threatning her to throw her out in the middle of the night ( wich i never done or said)

"and shes sleeping in my house eating my food etc etc"
and all her money goes into spending (girls stuff) drink and fun

if i tell her to move out and find a place she goes
( ohh yeah next week im gonna pack my clouths)
and shes still here... i cant just throw her clouths out and lock the door i feel bad to do stupid things.. and if we sit down and talk she will not take anything serious Sad

i dont wanna get into trouble or something so that the police can nock on my door but it dosent look like she takes things serious even if we talk... i even told her ok if u like some1 then go to them i aint gonna stop u or anything.....

PS: i really dont know what the neck its wrong with her...

Fairy Godmother

replied on June 6th, 2007

Supporter

Hit the Curb!

You need to be a man about this and quit dicking around......Pack her things up and put them next to the door. If you need to, call the sheriffs dept. and have them come to your house and supervise while she comes to get her thing. That way, she can't say you are throwing her out or being abusive. As long as you put up with crap, she will dish it out.....the ball is in your court Dude! Whose name is the rental unit in? You need to explain this to the Sheriffs Dept and tell them you ahve tried to be civil but she won't leave..............There are better girls out there who won't take advantage of you!

Erion

replied on June 7th, 2007

New User

the flat its in my name.. with papers and agreement.....she dont pay eny bills or shopping food nether all she does is sleep go out and come bak watever time she wants... its like shes living in a hotel

Fairy Godmother

replied on June 7th, 2007

Supporter

SOonds like a meth head to me......................sleep and party? You need to nip this in the bud and get her outta there. The longer you wait, the harder its gonna be............... You hold the cards.............Good luck!

dynamicdebz

replied on June 8th, 2007

New User

Listen to what everyone else on here as adviced, they are all right. She has no right walking all over you, I'm suprised you've allowed this to go on.
Tell her to leave during the day, perhaps make sure you have a friend with you who can back you up if she calls the police, female friend or relative would be better.
You sound like a nice guy you don't need or deserve this treatment, you know yourself what she has done it's just sometimes difficult to accept when we care so much for someone.
Good luck!

Erion

replied on June 9th, 2007

New User

i told her to leave and even pack her cloths... but i feel so bad to just throw her out like that ... and last night she lied to me big time.. telling me that they were short of staff at work and she had to stay till late... and when i read her msg on the phone she actually left work 8 in the evening and went for a drink..... and she was left in the middle of nowhere.. she was crying on the phone and i had to book a taxi for 40£ to go and pick her up and she was telling me that the last buss dident came... so i just pretend that i dident know anything... i guess shes just taking advantage of me.. and im not into fight or use violent.. i just want things to go smooth and nice..

Willa Weintraub

replied on June 9th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Erion wrote:

well I hate to burst your bubble,but things aren't going to smoothe and nice.this girl isn't going out without a fight and your just gonna have to do what you gotta do.don't let her use you or take advantage of you.in fact if I were you, since her name is not on the lease,tell her to leave and if she fights about it,you be the first to call the police and tell them all about it!

Erion

replied on June 12th, 2007

New User

well i got big suprise loool she comes up to me telling me that shes pregnant .... and she knows that its me lol well i havent been sleeping in the same bad as her for nearly 2 months now so i dont think i can look after some1 else kid... and its all getting **** up

Willa Weintraub

replied on June 13th, 2007

Extremely eHealthy

Erion wrote:

DNA test is in order then. SHe may be lying, just to kep you there. I know girls like that. . .

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