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Q: What Should I Do ?

asked by: Becky on June 3rd, 2007

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i am really confused at the moment. i am seperated from my husband and we have been parted for nearly 9 months. we have 2 young children together aged 2 and 1 which he sees twice a week.

we both started seeing new partners within a few weeks of splitting up but things are not going well with either of our new partners and he has just decided to end it as she cheated on him.

we still very much have an attraction together and flirt every time we are together and we have spoken about getting back together in the last few days. i would love for this to happen as i do not feel happy in my new relatioship however there are a few probelms...

1) i stupidly moved my new partner in with me and he has got attached to the kids. i feel like a bad person if i split up with him as he will miss the kids and they will miss him. i also do not know how to get him to move out...

2) my husband does not know when he wants to get back with me. he said he wants to make it work properly this time and does not want to be responsible for me breaking up with my partner.

3) i am worried that we will get back together and realise it is a mistake and then i will be stuck myself again. my new partner helps me out alot with the kids as i have bad sciatica and i don't know if i can cope alone.

any advice would be appreciated! thanks

Replies(4)

meblonde01

replied on June 3rd, 2007

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Re: What Should I Do?

beckster06 wrote:

Questioning the fact that you want to get back with you husband tells me that you don’t care for the other guy to much. That is not a good relationship, and probably would end sometime if you go back with your husband or not. It sounds like you still love you husband and I think for you and for the kids it would be a good idea to at least give it another try. If it doesn’t work out you will find another man. But it doesn’t sound like you care enough for the one you are with. Sounds like he is there for other reason than love. You can't stay with someone because he helps you with the kids. There has to be more. Why did you and your hubby split up in the first place?

Becky

replied on June 3rd, 2007

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you are completely right. i do not love my new boyfriend. it is more of a realtionship of convience. we split because alot of stuff happened to us and we couldn't cope. we lost a baby at 21 weeks and we kept arguing all the time. i resented him for things that i know i would not resent him for now as they are not applicable anymore.

he was crying on my shoulder yesterday though about splitting up with this girlfriend. i don't know what to do... i know i should leave it for a bit as i don't want to be his rebound.

we are going to a music festival together just the two of us on thursday for 4 days

i just don't know what to do Crying or Very sad

meblonde01

replied on June 3rd, 2007

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beckster06 wrote:

I think you need to split up with the other guy, Like I said you don't really love him and probably will some day anyway. As for your hubby. Don't do anything. Just play it by ear. If he talks about comming home, tell him you would like to give it a try but you don't want to be a rebond thing.. Just be honest. Give him sapce and see where it goes.. Enjoy your time together, and don't talk about it to much unless he brings its up.. Just have fun.. If he should decide he doesn't want to come home. (I don't think he will, I think he still loves you!) then you did all you could to make it happen. And there are a lot of good men out there. Smile

JUST HAVE FUN!!

DPantelones

replied on June 4th, 2007

Experienced User

Right on meblonde, it sounds like both of you are confused about what you want/need at this point. Get rid of the bf and gf and have some time to yourselves. I think the festival thing is a bad idea but let us know what happens!

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