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Q: Does This Make Me a Bad Person?

asked by: rach16 on February 26th, 2004

Experienced User

I no everyone has there different views on things but I am really doubting whether I should have my baby. I have only just come out of hospital as my babies dad bet me ysterday really bad n there is now n high risk my baby is goin to have brain damage or b deformed in some way. (not def and remember girls time difference is different over here incase u fink im liein but trust I wudnt bout this)
but to add to it I have also found out there is a high chance my baby will be still born now do I go through all this and still either end up wit a child I wont be able to cope with or having to carry my child for 9 months only o find out it has died during labour? I no u ladies cant tell me what to do but does it make me a bad person just wonderin how easy it would be not to have this baby and go through all this?

Rachel xx

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Replies(29)

babyrae

replied on February 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

U r not(caps) a bad person! None of this is your fault and ur stuck in a life or death situation... I honestly dont know what to tell you.... Thats a very hard decision and I think its one u have to make yourself. Just think about your choices very wisely and see which one u think would be better for u. I really dont think theres a right or wrong answer here... Its a very hard decision but we'll all help u thru what u decide, but u are not a bad person for this happening and plz dont think that about yourself. We're here for u!

Shauna

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rach16

replied on February 26th, 2004

Experienced User

Thanks

I just really needed to get it out. U wait tho I have been good tryin not to fight but he will get it bk I swear. I no its not the right way to do things but men should no u dont mess with a pregnant violent hormal woman!! I will let you know what I decide I dont think I could cope with a baby that needs special attention. I dnt believe in gettin rid of babies it is not their fault an im still in shock that he would do such a thing!! Thanks for not judgin me he knows I wont let him get away wit it im so angry but really upset n all.

Thanks I do really mean it
love rachel xxx

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babyrae

replied on February 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

That guy that did this to you shouldnt even be allowed to walk the streets. Men who could abuse pregnant women like that should be locked away for life. I'm so sorry u had to go thru that and whatever decision u make i'll help u thru it, but its also good u stopped yourself from fighting others (i hope u did defend urself against that guy even tho guys can be much stronger than girls) but I hope ur okay and u make the decision thats right for u. I wish u all the best and i'll always be here in case u need to talk Smile

Smile

shauna

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rach16

replied on February 26th, 2004

Experienced User

I did defend myself but its hard when he gets his m8s to hold your arms and legs dwn. He knows I can fight thats y he had to get people to help.... Im sorri I cant do this I cant talk bout this its making me angry. Of course im upset but I dnt like cryin I found out long time ago it doesnt get you no where. If I dnt sort this out an finish college den I will ave nothin so I need to focus on that an kickin that boys ass!!! I will speak to u soon but I cant handle talkin bout what when on

thanks for your concern
rachel

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JillMarie

replied on February 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I dont think you are a bad person. I think you should think of all the possibilities and decide what would be best for you and you baby.

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insurancegirl

replied on February 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

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Mesmerizeu15

replied on February 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

*teary eyes* I dont know what I would do*

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sparklypixie12

replied on February 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Im coming down there to kick his ass rach.That makes me so mad.Im sorry to hear about that sweets-how could he do that when ur expecting his child?
You need to decide what you want to do-you have options.Look at jen's story-they nearly gave up on her and look at her know-she's a bit of a liar (lol! Had to get that in jen!) but shes doing great & has three kids.Its your choice though isnt it-this is your baby & your flesh & blood and whatever you do,make sure its been your decision.Dont that that evil health questions talk u into anything.
Thinking of u Sad

Sad

liz x
p.S. You could do him for gbh (grievious bodily harm)

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insurancegirl

replied on February 26th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

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rach16

replied on February 26th, 2004

Experienced User

I wont get him done for gbh but I am goin to get him bk . Let you know what happens k girles.

Love rachel xx

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BabyP

replied on February 27th, 2004

Experienced User

Sorry

Im sorry to here about this......I dont think your leing, how far along are you??? I dont think your a bad person, some may disagree wth me, but I think it is unselfish of you to thin this way,you may be thinkin in the best intrest of the child, well good luck, I hope you can decide for your self the right decision. Xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox pamala

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rach16

replied on February 27th, 2004

Experienced User

Thanks I personally dont care if people disagree with me unless they have been in exactly the same situation as me in the first place but so far no1 has! Im in my 19th week or beginning of my 20th I forget still new at all this

love rachel

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sparklypixie12

replied on February 27th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

You have to get him back rach-this is so wrong of him.I really wanna kick his ass & it'll only take me about 2 and half hours 2 get there!!

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Mesmerizeu15

replied on February 27th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

*still at a loss for words*

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rach16

replied on February 27th, 2004

Experienced User

Dont worry liz I am proof anger management dnt work an I have beat him up b4 wen I wasnt pregnant but how could someone be so heartless so hurt their own son? I woulnt of cared as much if he hadnt broken my nose or hit my face but my baby that has taken it too far! If I decided o can handle my child and my life then I will 110% make sure he nevr eva sees his son and if my son undatsnds wen im older I will explain exactly what is father is like so he can h8 him as much as I do

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Mesmerizeu15

replied on February 27th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

I think that you can do it? Do you believe in yourself?

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Jaydensmommy

replied on February 27th, 2004

Advanced Support Team

I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I am against abortion, but I almost wonder that if in this situation..It may be best. I mean if that child is born with problems, it could suffer for the rest of his life. But then again....Doctors arn't always right. And look at jen..I mean shes grown to be a wonderful woman. I really don't know what I would do personally. You are so strong! I wish you the best of luck and if you need someone to talk to, please let me know.

~sara~

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babyrae

replied on February 27th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

Jen?? What happened to jen? I think im lost lol!

Shauna

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insurancegirl

replied on February 27th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

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