Okay.

DO you masturbate? It's pretty key. If you don't know what makes you feel good, there's really not much you can do to help your partner satisfy you; and he's not psychic so he can't tell.

There are two general kinds of stimulation that you get during sex: clitoral and vaginal. Usually, the easiest one to orgasm from is clitoral. The vaginal orgasm hasn't been exactly proven, nor has the g-spot.

I know when I have sex, having my fiancee inside of my makes my entire body shiver. It's an overwhelming feeling. There's like these tingles that shoot down my legs and up my chest. Are you saying you can't feel anything at all; like you can't even feel if you put two fingers in your vagina and moved them around? it's totally numb? Or do you mean you're not feeling what you think you should be feeling? Or maybe you feel something but it's not enjoyable?

i can't feel anything during masterbation either i'm bought vibraters everything like i can feel that its there but other then that nothing

I'm the same way. I feel nothing. It sucks.

So you're not numb, but you get no sexual pleasure from it? If so, you are not alone. Many women have trouble enjoying sex or having an orgasm. Some women do not have a very sensitive clitoris, so stimulating the clitoris does not do much of anything.

One thing I like to add when I see posts like this, is something I've read about Histamine levels. I don't know much about it, but have read in a couple different places that Histamine levels can affect men and women's abilities to achieve orgasm. High levels make it easy, and low levels make it difficult.

A doctor could check your levels and perhaps recommend treatment. If he/she doesn't know what to do, you could look into some supplements, specifically amino acids. Histamine is created from the amino acid Histadine, so supplementing with that may help increase it. The amino acid Methionine may actually prevent the creation of Histamine. I don't remember in which fashion, but Vitamin C also affects Histamine I believe.

If you have no success from trying to relax, toys, masturbation, etc. you might want to go to a doctor and make sure nothing is wrong. And if nothing works or is found, perhaps ask about Histamine.

Do you get aroused ever? If you do get aroused but just aren't able to reach orgasm, that is probably just not knowing yet what works for you.... I get no joy at all out of masturbating, and when he fingers me or oral it feels good but I never orgasm. I only orgasm from vaginal sex. I don't know what it is that stimulates me and when I feel around myself, I feel nothing. If you try many different things and nothing works, I would seek a sex therapist.

However, if you don't even get aroused, you should get your hormone levels checked. (Specifically testosterone). That could mean a whole lot of other problems and needs to get checked by the doc.

I can't feel anything sometimes and it's freaking me out , ! I don't know if this would ruin our relationship , I want good sex , but we get bored too ! We tried so many positions , and most of them , we can't use them because I don't feel ANYTHING . Like he's inside me , but I won't get the feeling I need to have to orgasm Ahh .. This sucks ! When he fingures me, I EXPLODE . That's not a problem , But the rest , is so .. boring even though I like it sometimes . I want to do the job sometimes , but there's like whatt .. rare positions for the girl to use ! I like when he does all the work , but goshh sometimes I want to work too ! l0llll Want to I do ... ! I want to feel it ! And I want to enjoy again !

I have exactly the same problem.

He gets aroused very easily, which arouses me. But when it comes to any kind of stimulation, it just doesn't feel good. I don't feel pain, I just simply feel my own finger/his/his penis inside me, and I derive no pleasure from it.
I feel bad, because he's always keen for sex, but knows that I don't enjoy it.

I try masturbation, but it really doesn't do anything for me.

It's not as though I have no sex drive, because I do, and it's quite high. Is it just that I'm doing it wrong to myself? If that was the case, how come I also feel nothing when he fingers me, or when we have sex?

I REALLY want enjoyable sex.

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if ur in love with ur partner and hes the only guy u have had sex with and he isnt small down there and u cant feel anything during sex than MAYBE its cuz ur first time ever having sex u were scared or it was really painfull that while youll were doing it u were more concentrated on that then oh its gonna be great or its gonna feel real good that ur emotions for that switched? so i think what u have to do is dont have sex again till ur tight again then try again but this time instead of worring just be horny first so u can want it than of course its gonna hurt again but try not to think about the pain and MAYBE this time u will feel something!..and idk if not using a condom will make it easier or using a condom will make it easier? but idk just trying to help!

I don't know what to do. I am 16 and my bf is 15 and him and i have been having sex for about a month or two now and the sex was really good until two days ago he isnt small and we have tried different things i feel it but only 40% of the time and its sad cause i dont kno wats wrong with me and i dont kno why is has changed all of a sudden i want to go back to having good sex i cant even rlly feel in during anal either and tht bothers me too i can feel the pressure on my body and hips and feel the sensitivity on the outside around the vag. but i cant feel his penis for the most part :S