Aww, hun, I'm sorrry. I would feel hurt too.

Have you said anything about it? You know, asking what is different about their baby shower than yours? Tell them you'll make sure to do whatever it is that they are doing that is so special at your next baby shower...see what they say to that...

~Big hug~

Sorry .B .I would be upset too. Why do you think it's happening this way?

I think you have every right to feel the way you do. KNow what I 've realized though??? Family sucks sometimes.

i really don't know... i just wish i didn't feel this way! i feel like such a baby.

i do mention stuff to my mom and she always say, "what, are you jealous?" and i'll say, "well... yes, i am", and she just thinks it's silly.

another thing that bugged me was on mother's day. when i got to my parents' house i saw a card for me and a card for my sil. i asked my mom why there was a card for her and she said "because she's a mother-to-be and she deserves to feel special too". last year on mother's day i was a mother-to-be and had hoped i might get a card because i thought it would be a really sweet gesture, instead my mom said "and next year you'll get to celebrate!"

oh, and my mom buys finn used clothes and new clothes for the new baby.

i don't know, i just feel like the black sheep of the family. it's stupid.

your feelings are totally justified, .b.. seems like there's some favoritism going on & that definitely isn't cool. it's not fair at all.

although it's not on the level that you're dealing with.. i see lots of favoritism in my household. my sisters are definintely favorited over me. becky is allowed to use *my* car anytime she needs to- even if i have to work, or already had plans.. & .she never puts gas in it, & will not tell me when it's on empty.. so i will go to start my car & ta-da! the gas needle won't even move. she uses up all the gas i put in it & doesn't put any back in. when i confront her or my mom about it, they say it's because she's going to .france in a few weeks & needs money... what? don't even get me started on the .france thing. it's just super unfair that i have to share my car when it's the car with the carseat in it & it's hardly ever here when i am.. so if something happens & i need to rush somewhere with .gabe.. i'm screwed. i had to share my car with .kayla for a year, then she got her own car & doesn't have to share it at all.

.anyway.. i didn't mean to go off on a tangent in your topic, .bridge. you have every right to feel the way you do, because that is some grade .a caca!

I'd be pissed tooand to be honest with you,as childish as it is, I wouldn't go to their shower.I'd still get them something but I wouldn't go.I would end up throwing a fit about it. . .I know,I know,it's immature but I would!

krissy,what are they gona do when you move out?

I agree with .jess. Sometimes, family sucks.

I'm the black sheep of the family (through way of my mother. Of course, living 'in sin' didn't help matters) They always thought she should have married better than my dad. (I agree there...) And it was always an 'I told you so' type deal. And I grew up dirt floor poor because my dad left. My mom did the best she could. But I was working a full time job and going to school by the time I was 14 just so ends would meet. I always sort of resented the fact that I grew up so young. And now my mom is remarried and my little sister (half) grows up comfortably. (whith my help). And I'm extremely jealous. But I don't think that makes me a bad person. If you down yourself, you'll just feel worse toward the whole situation. You are justified in feeling that way, and it frustrates me that your mother would brush off your feelings like that. I'm sending you a big virtual hug.

.that's what i keep asking them. because my car is most definitely coming with me, & i am selling that sucker (hopefully to .terra! ) .. so i hope they plan on getting her a car. whatever. once i move out, it's not my problem anymore.

I'd feel the same way.
For our wedding we got $50 from my mom's cousin and for my cousin's wedding they got a week free in her condo in Alabama.

i would be jealous. actually, i'd probably be furious and take it as them saying my child is less important than the coming baby. the worst part is that you actually say how you feel and your mother shrugs it off. but there isn't really much you can do about any of it. i'd bring finn to the baby shower so that he gets the attention he should have before, haha.

Like everyone else said, you have every right to feel jealous. I'm sorry you had to go through all that with your own shower! They should have been accommodating you, not the other way around. I would tell you to make your feelings known in a non-accusatory way, but .I don't know who the right person would be to approach. You could gently point out to your mom the contrasts between your shower and your sister-in-law's and tell her that you're feeling hurt. For your next shower, don't make any compromises - you deserve to be relaxed and to get the best.

I'm be so flippin' mad!

What the hell is that about? I feel angry for you!

grr b im mad 4 ya, your a nice one cuz i would blow up at ppl