Joined: 24 Apr 2007 Posts: 9 Location: Freeport, IL
I Can't Reach An Orgasm !! Help ! Posted: 05-29-07 18:55pm
ive only been sexually active for about 2
months now and i can never seem to orgasm
during sex! ive had 2 partners, one was a
"minute man" so i knew i wouldnt reach it
but the other one went for a while and i
still wasnt able to orgasm!! i could feel
it coming on but it never actually came!
and another thing...before i started
having sex, i could masturbate and finish
within minutes, now it takes FOREVER!
whether im having sex or just
masturbating! whats wrong here??
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Tylanas
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Posted: 05-29-07 20:02pm
It's interesting that for some reason
masturbation doesn't work for you
anymore... I don't have a lot of advice,
aside from the fact that many women don't
come during sex anyway.
I woud suggest clitorally stimulating
yourself, or have him do it...
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Birch
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Posted: 05-29-07 20:06pm
That's interesting. I don't know what
could've changed-didja have some life
altering event or something?
People change. Maybe your biology changed
or something. Maybe you need a whip, or a
french tickler, or a cage, or a gang.
::
My bf was a 'minute man' once upon a time,
but no longer. I myself used to have
multiple orgasms in frequent intervals
(the banshees were jealous of my
shrieking) but no more.
Try new things, try different things. And
when in doubt, buy a triple threat
ladybug.
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Posted: 05-30-07 10:46am
I don't think that for the first two
months that I had sex I had many
orgasms.... We were still living with our
parents so the few times we went away
together or snuck it in while no onewas
home it wasn't that great Maybe it's
something like that, or maybe just because
you are new to sex you are still working
on figuring out how to be comfortable
wtith it or how to be emotionally
comfortable with it..
I think the advice I have heard most often
is to try and enjoy sex without really
putting pressure on an orgasm... so you
can learn to let go and enjoy sex. Or make
sure you spend a lot of time on
foreplay.... A lot!! Like 15 minutes at
least before you even start sex.... this
will make sure you are good and relaxed
and you might even cum before you start
having sex. .
Helpful at all??
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forever16
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Joined: 11 Feb 2007 Posts: 76
Posted: 05-31-07 11:49am
Same with me! I could almost feel it
coming this one time but it didn't come.
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aszalajka
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Joined: 29 May 2007 Posts: 103 Location: ,
Posted: 05-31-07 16:15pm
I have to have control in the bed room for
me to cum. there are only 2 positions that
my bf and i can do where i know im gonna
have a orgsm. other than that if im not
feeling greedy ill do what my boyfriend
wants. which isnt much hes too shy to ask
LOL
but i know it took me a long time to get
to be able to have an orgsm every time i
have sex and if im with a guy who isnt
willing to work with meand hes being
greedy that its pointless LOL
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MrsClark2007
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Joined: 31 May 2007 Posts: 5 Location: Cleveland
Posted: 05-31-07 18:49pm
Ive had the problem before. And I figured
it out....clitoral stimulation helps but
its also something that you cant think
about too much. I found myself striving
for the big O and couldnt get it...if you
just let it happen it will....If you think
about it too much it takes your mind off
of the actual situation. But at the same
time dont totally forget about it...just
imagine the actual sex and try not to
think too hard about it....good
luck....P.S. I didnt reach my first big O
until i was having intercourse for almost
a year!!!!!!!!
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aburris87
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Joined: 24 Apr 2007 Posts: 9 Location: Freeport, IL
Posted: 05-31-07 19:28pm
thanks so much for all your input!
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fiona05
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Posted: 06-02-07 17:38pm
i totally understand this feeling you
describe of being really close to orgasm
and just losing it. i find that when i am
that close to orgasm i need to completely
let go (ie, stop thinking about what i
look/sound like lol) and just concentrate
really hard on what is happening in that
moment - i need to get myself really
turned on. once i do this i don't get
that problem.
when you are having sex it is easy
sometimes to just see it as something
commonplace, and you don't get totally
into it; perhaps your mind wanders. if
you really focus on the fact you have
having sex, and get carried away in the
moment i'm sure it will happen for you!
:
Maybe it's
something like that, or maybe just because
you are new to sex you are still working
on figuring out how to be comfortable
wtith it or how to be emotionally
comfortable with it..
