hmm if it was me i would want to know because it was about me so then i could try and make it better, but if he doesn't want to tell you then your can't force it out of him. Dom gets a little jelious of what i've done with girls before meeting him but nothing serious because he knows my that i'm bisexual and that's part of me that i can't change nor would i be willing to try to change so i know where you're coming from there. Ok can't type anymore i've got a really painfull braxton hicks so need to walk around the room for a bit

Oh .Terra, men are moody souls. You may as well just get used to it. They don't have .P.M.S, but they have something close.

It sounds like he might still be upset about what you did in the past, because he said "you can't change it." That could be a pride issue for him, like you said - he wishes he was first. It's difficult for guys to open up. I think you're doing the right thing by offering him space, but letting him know you're there if he wants to talk. With that approach, he'll probably come around! When he does, you can assure him that your past is just that - your past - and that the present and the future is all about him and you.

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I know how hard it is, babe. It's only human for it to drive you nuts when he won't tell you what's bothering him when it involves you. I'm sure he knows you don't try to hurt him! He might be more willing to talk about it later today or tomorrow.

THats a tough one. I wouldn't handle it well. I would be thinking of the worst case scenerio and get myself all upset over nothing. So my advice is to not act like me. Try your best to ignore it for a few days. Let him deal with whatever it is he needs to deal with and give him some time (I know, easier said than done) But, honestly, it could be a million things. Maybe he got a job/apprenticeship (sp) offer that would require a move or something like that. All those things 'kinda' involve you. So try not to worry to much. I'm sure if it was something bad he would have let you know. I hope he comes around soon. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.

Terra, i'm going through this with my boyfriend too. I think i'm more jealous than he is though, and even though my guy has only been with 4 girls I still get pretty mad sometimes... I'm just like "okayyyy, Brian... shush that mouth"

I look at it as....yeah you've done some stuff, you live & you learn. But the past is in the past and you're with him now and nobody else so he should be thankful for that and trust that you'd never do that again, especially now since you have a boyfriend, and I can totally tell you and Tommy will be together for a long time, You guys are just so cute and it's obvious you guys were meant to meet eachother.

I can understand why he's jealous because i'm jealous myself....but come on!!! I doubt you love girls...and I know you love tommy.

I love you terra, if you ever want someone to talk to send me a message!! I'll try to help anyway I can. <3

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This is just my opinion, but if it were me...i wouldn't do anything at all. he's got a problem and it's up to him to do something about it, whether that is talk to you about it or not. You should not let your moods and feelings be dictated by his. You are your own person and if he is feeling moody it is enough to offer to listen if he wants to talk or just to be there for him. You've already done that and it is a bit immature of him to say "yes it is you but I don't want to tell you what it's about". I would just drop it, like you said you were going to and leave it to him to bring it up again if it is still an issue. I think men are used to having women always trying to get into their heads and being a little too wrapped up in what they're thinking. There is no reason you should feel guilty about anything you did before you met him or before you were a couple. If that is what is bothering him then he needs to work it out in his head and decide for himself if he's gonna let it bother him. Just don't worry so much!!

Honestly, what we did in our pasts is what makes us who we are today.

I have done alot in my past that I am not proud of. But, I can't do anything about it now. And those were all learning experiences. I learned alot. It also helped me to realize what is important to me. My husband knows about my past (drugs, not guys) and is not happy with it either. But he also knows that I learned from that part of my life and that I wont wonder later if getting married young took something away. He'll realize with time, that those experiences make you, you.

terra,not to make you think anymore than you already are,but could he feel bad about the fact that you can't ctually be together yet?he's in college and he's growing up.he has all this new stuff around him,he's in a a new state meeting new people with parties and all.maybe the distance is hurting him?thats something you can change yet. . it's a suggestion that maybe it only has part or none to do with your past,although I agree you can't change it.Not to be a downer.

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oh no no no! I didn't mean he was giving up! lol Maybe its starting to get to him,ya know since you guys have sen each other.Even you said it gets harder and harder everytime he leaves right? maybe he feels the same way?

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every body has a past. It's really hard to accept when you are younger, and haven't been with many people, but as you get older and the people you see have had time to see other people before you, you learn to deal with it. i think if that's what is bothering him it's because you guys are still young (not in a bad way) and are each others only real serious relationships (as of yet... i think?). anyways... point is... everyone has a past. as you get older you just learn it's inevitable and how to deal with it better, that is all.

anyways, i hope you two sort this one out.

i understand both sides when i think that shawn lost his v card to someone else i get jellous... he did what tommy is doing once turned out he didnt like me hanging out with my ex's because i acted diff with them (because i didnt know how to talk to them anymore) it took awhile to get it out of him and i was worried