Mother in law came to visit.
Her whole family is very tall meaning at least 5 foot 10 on up. Her other son married a girl who is also 5'10. Needless to say, I am the shorty at 5'4.My husband is 6'6 and his brother is 6'5.
She has been saying that she wonders if the child I am carrying will take after my husbands side of the family. She sometimes states that Nathan doesn't eat like a "Lee" , is small and doesn't have my husband's temperment at all (...Nathan is very anal - like my husband, so he does in some ways). She said, I wonder if the other child will surpass Nathan in weight and height. She stated that Nathan hardly eats and that is going to negatively impact other factors such as development. I know that but Nathan is still getting cleaned out due to his poo problem so he is not as hungry (which we were told was going to happened). Secondly, hardly any child can eat like the extremely tall Lee family. She said that she hopes that this other child will eat more and that it will rub off on Nathan. Her other grandchild is a full year younger than nathan but is in the 99% for weight and height. He actually weighs more than Nathan and has a very healthy appetite. She has no concerns with the way he is being raised or his growth. She says that Nathan obviously takes after my side of the family in personally, height and weight. I was on the lower percentile in weight and height.
Her son, my husband, was a "perfect" child and was opposite of strong-willed. He did everything he was told and was/is gifted. Nathan is very smart but he is not gifted like my husband was/is. I sense disappointment in that as well. When I tell them of all the feats my son is doing, I don't get a "That is good!" She doesn't say anything. Nathan was such a great, easy baby and when he was he took after my husband. Now that he is strong-willed and difficult, he takes after my side of the family. It just drives me nuts and frankly really upsets me. If Nathan was reading like my husband did or could put together 300 piece legos by looking at the directions at age three, I would constantly here how much Nathan takes after his daddy and how smart he is.
I told her that perhaps nathan will gain in height and later look like a Lee. She shook her head and said, "No" all the Lee boys were very high in weight and height from the beginning. I know she really wants this next child to look and act like a "Lee."
My husbands family are all genius'. Their IQ's are all off the charts, in addition to their heights. My Nathan and I are not like them. The other grandchild is.I really hope that the child I am carrying is not extremely different from Nathan I hope he is very similar in height and intelligence. I really feel that the other child would get favored if he were like a "Lee". Oh... when she mentioned the whole development thing in relation to the eating habits, I couldn't help but think she probably thinks that's the reason why Nathan is not a genius like the rest of them. Both of her boys were hearty eaters and have extremely high IQ's. Just plain irritating.
This may sound really trivial to most of you but when you marry into a family with ultra high IQ's and very tall people whose whole identity is in their height, it affects your life when you are around them.
I probably am a bit more sensitive to the height and weight thing because Nathan is a little small in comparison to other almost four year old boys. He is very petite. I am a bit sensitive because he has the digestive issues and do wonder if that has negatively impacted his height and weight. . I was extremely petite, so my son may just take after me.
Oh...I love my extremely strong-willed child. Although life is very difficult with his oppositional behavior, I am so glad he is the way he is. He has a lot of leadership potential and is anything but a little follower! I did tell my mother in law that I was glad Nathan was strong-willed and she looked at me without saying one word - almost like she couldn't believe I was happy that my Nathan is just the way he is!!
Sorry for being so long. This is probably a scattered little posting.
***** JUST GOT A PHONE CALL!! My husband's brother is pregnant with child #2! I am happy. They are wonderful people. Interesting how I was just writing about them. The other child will be like a "Lee" in weight and height because both of them are very tall.
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