It's a common misconception that a lot of sex will stretch your vagina out. The vagina is very flexible and has no problem being stretched and bouncing back from your average sexual encounter. So not having sex for a week would not make your vagina tighter.

"Giving birth can cause your vagina to stretch out; having sex can't."
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advic e/questions/vagina-muscle.

Your vagina does get tighter and looser at different times though, it's just not due to having sex or not having sex.

Things that can effect how tight or loose you seem:

"1. Women's vaginas are less elastic when they are not sexually aroused. They become more elastic — "looser" — the more sexually excited they become. A woman may feel "tighter" to a man when she is less aroused, less comfortable, and having less pleasure than her partner.

2. Hormonal shifts during a woman's menstrual cycle affect vaginal secretions and may affect vaginal elasticity. She may feel "looser" on certain days of her cycle than on others.

3. Certain drugs, such as antihistamines or marijuana, may make the walls of the vagina feel dry so they seem "tighter."

4. A woman's vagina may feel tighter or looser in different positions for intercourse."

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/sexual-he alth/ask-dr-cullins/ask-dr-cullins-relatio nships-5287.htm

So you can try kegels. I don't bother with them, so I can't give you first hand experience there. Just be aware of reproductive anatomy and the fact that having sex is not making your vagina huge or loose, just like abstaining from sex is not going to make your vagina small and tight. It sounds like you just get in the mood and well lubricated. That makes the penis slide in and out a lot easier, which protects the inside of your vagina from rips and tears, but it can also decrease some feeling.

The only thing that has changed is that I have just come off the pill injection and onto the pill. It hadn’t happened before the last 2 month since I started on the pill. Since it hadn’t happen before and I haven’t had a baby could this affect it. I don’t feel anymore or less excited before or during it would be the only thing i could think of.

Thanks for teh help I feel a lot better now there wasn't much online io was worried it was just me.

Thanks

Samantha

The pill can cause changes in your sex drive. If you're more in the mood, you will feel more loose. Less in the mood, and you'll feel tighter.

Also, since it contains hormones, it may cause a change in your discharge (lubrication). More discharge means you'll feel looser. So it is possible that you are noticing some differences from that.

You could always ask your ob-gyn more about it too if you want.

Yeah, I agree... also, you are relaxing because you've just had an orgasm and that is probably what causes the loss in feeling too. You can do kegals, but I'm pretty sure the purpose of that is that during sex, you can purposely tighten the muscles to make it tighter for him for a brief period (you really can't hold it that long) just to add a little something extra. I don't think that it would make you permanently tighter or anything. Just like having sex doesn't make you permanently looser.

But I would trust your man when he says it's not a problem.... unless you have a reason to think he's lying. By that point, he's probably so into it he doesn't really notice.